Preventative measures?

I lost my mum a month ago today. She was my rock. I have a history of depression and anxiety, including suicidal ideation; not on meds or in therapy at present and am trying to cope with everything as best I can alone. I have zero family to rely on and only a couple of close friends, but they are going through their own s**t right now. Am reaching out to this community hoping to get some coping skills for a time like this. I really don't want to start spiralling but I know I'm literally just gritting my teeth to stop it from happening. Any bright ideas would be much appreciated...

[Agora1]

Crazeechick, I am extending my deepest sympathy on the loss of your mother.I am so sorry. It's difficult to find ourselves alone while coping with grief as well

as anxiety and depression. I'm happy that you have turned to this safe supporting

forum.

Right now, you need time to heal and time to grieve. I have always used Meditation

in quieting my emotions. YouTube is my "go to". As you start interacting with others

you will find what works for them, may work for you as well.

Medication and Therapy are always an option for a quick fix. However, doing this on

your own is a possibility that can help get you through these darkest times.

We are here for you xx

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Thanks for the support and for this tip Agora1 👌 will have a look on YouTube for Meditation videos . I used to be too impatient to sit through it in my younger days but am willing to try anything! Am barely sleeping just now, so this will give me something to occupy the long hours!

[Agora1 in reply to Hidden]

Crazeechick, it takes time to adapt to meditation. For me, it was the keyto success after suffering years with anxiety and agoraphobia.

I meditate and do breathing 3 x a day (everyday)

First thing when I wake up in the morning I listen to a calming meditation

midafternoon for 5-10 min to regenerate

and before bed. It leaves me with positive thoughts instead of all the things

that went on throughout the day.

It allows me to go into a deep REM sleep and wake us less anxious.

The meditations I do include Affirmations, Relaxation & Self Hypnosis.

Start slowly with 10 min meditations that you can gradually lengthen as

your mind adapts to focusing on the words w/o your mind wandering.

My best to you... xx

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Thank you so much for your reply and am so sorry that you lost your mom too ChavivLeon. I will check out the book you recommend. I am not eating or sleeping properly at the moment. Zero self care. I am feeling shell shocked by her not being in my life. I took care of her for a couple of years but now my days are empty. I need to move home because the place where we lived is too much for me financially, as well as emotionally. It's funny you mention that you reached out to an old friend. I did that too and he had lost his mom last year to liver cancer. So now we swap stories from our childhood and try to remember our mothers as they were then.

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HiMy huge condolences are being sent to you. My heart aches for you. . I was absolutely heartbroken when my Mum sadly passed away but I don't think I grieved properly as I threw myself into looking after my Dad. When Dad sadly passed, I was obviously heartbroken, it hit me like a lead balloon. I couldn't stop crying because I missed them so much. I am very lucky to have a great support network of family and friends and of course people on here too. Sometimes someone who isn't directly involved can help you more in their own way. I ended going for counceling which was brilliant. I advise you to do the same. PM if you need/ want to

Lots of love, hugs and prayers are being sent to you Lynne xxxx ❤️🤗🙏❤️🤗🙏❤️🤗🙏❤️🤗🙏

[lolanell]

Sorry for your loss, remember she is always with you in spirit and will help you you on your path. Please reach out to everyone you can. Can you find a support group in your area. Keep to a structured day and allow yourself do read, watch a movie, go for a walk, and make a nourishing meal. If you can take a mild sedative to sleep this will help get you through the night. I will be praying for you….

[Daveacr1959]

I have been battling anxiety 50 years. Daily cardio exercise to produce endorphins that battle your anxiety and depression, are the best thing I can suggest. Then try to be around other people like family who loves you.

[No1wthayla]

Crazeechick, I'm so sorry that your mom passed away. My mom had cancer for 3 years and passed away in January 2009. She was also my best friend. When she died, I felt originally like she had just gone on vacation in Arizona somewhere. She would be back any day, I thought. I really missed talking to her every Sunday. And her silly emails and phone calls to me at work. Going to visit her 2 hours south of me and staying up until 2 in the morning talking. I had arrived (around 8 pm). Help her with things she needed done. It was hard to lose her.

Every death in my family still hurts when I think of those I have lost. Eight people in 10 years. But I can only look forward and fight the sadness. I have to fight the pain and missing their voices, laughter, attitude. My daughter lives with me so I do have her.

Coping skills: For me this site has done more than any psychotherapist or neuropyschologist. Just having someone to talk to who has been through what I've gone through. Someone who can tell me how they coped. Or just replying to someone who is struggling. I hope that I am helping at least a little for those I have responded to. (I do take medication but don't feel it does as much as HU does.

Post whenever you need us. Prayers, love, hugs and light.

[Hidden]

Thank you so much for this. I am struggling today. Knowing someone out there cares enough to understand really helps comfort me. I am sorry you lost your mom. Hope she wasn't in too much pain. You are blessed to have your daughter to keep your spirits up. Take care 💜

[Balthazar]

I am very sorry for your loss. This is one of life’s most terrible tragedies. I will pray that you will find the inner strength to heal and that you will find compassionate people to assist you during this extremely difficult time.

[AdamFCastillo31]

Hi, it is sad to hear about your mother. Parents are such a blessing and one cannot think that one day they won't be with us. I can totally understand your feelings and I know that such a huge loss can push a person into a depression hole. Depression is not something to be taken lightly and random tips will not get you a long way in overcoming it. I would suggest you take consultancy from a professional psychiatrist who will guide you through the whole journey and you will overcome your depression and anxiety in a short period of time with proper guidance and a roadmap provided by your psychiatrist. You can try medvidi, one of my colleagues had an amazing experience with them and they have a very professional and experienced staff. I hope that the information I have shared helps you. Wishing you all the best. Get well soon.