I am going through a rough time right now and, once again, I find myself fatalizing and always picturing worst-case scenarios. It affects my sleep, appetite and is driving my poor wife crazy. I am on here as I am tired of living like this and want to find some solutions to help my manage these feelings of anxiety, negativity etc. I have booked in with my doctor and a therapist, but any good advice is appreciated. Thanks for taking the time to read this and best wishes and love to all on this site.
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Welcome to this site Brando1. You are certainly not alone in this feeling. As you interact
with other men and women who feel the same fears and anticipation, you will find in what
works best for you. Seeing your doctor and a therapist are good first steps in going forward. Sometimes a little medication may be warranted in allowing you to calm down
those irrational thoughts.
Learning to accept anxiety as not harmful can be a big help. Many people on this site, including myself have started with "Hope & Help for your Nerves" by Dr. Claire Weekes.
It can help give you a solid foundation in accepting anxiety.
I'm glad you found this safe and non judgmental site to come to when you are in a
negative thought process and need the support and comfort from others who
Thank you so much for reaching out, Agora1. I really appreciate it. I am Googling the book you have recommended and will pick it up later today. Thanks again for taking the time to reach out and for your suggestions!
Welcome to the site, its good that you are reaching out for help - that is so important and the right doctor can help immensely. I wish I had some good advice, but I'm sure others will chime in with theirs. I just wish you the best!
Thanks, Hello_Vivi! I have actually found some pretty good resources and tips from the site and from others.
Finding Peace in a Frantic World by Mark Willian’s is good. He does an eight week mindful meditation programme which you can access free via a link in the book or it’s also on the App Store.
I am SO GLAD you are here! I suggest that you open up and Express your true feelings here. I think you will find us to be non judgmental, caring and helpful whenever we can be. Welcome to this healing space!
Hi, I know what your going through, I've been living with this off and on for about 36 years. It's a hard thing to deal with, there have been times when I would emotionally go blank when I've had to deal with stressful situations. Days with barely eating, I'd force to at least drink water to not dehydrate. I spend a lot of time inside. Don't be afraid to change doctors or medication? I did, if it helps I'm on Mirtazapine now, for about 6 months, so far so good, I have my moments, though. Good luck
Thank you so much. You guys have no idea how much these messages have helped. Monday is not going to be a fun day, but it will come and go. I will speak to my doctor on Wednesday about Mirtazipine. I hope things keep going well for you. Please stay in touch.
Your welcome, that's what we're here for to support each other. You will find one here or there that's not going to like what's been said and will criticize you, ignore them and move on. Yes Please bring up the medication, it might not work for you? if not, find one that will. Let me know how your appointment goes?
Hello and welcome. Ruminations are the main symptom of anxiety for me. I feel that based on my life story, my brain is sort of programmed to expect the worse. I'd been in control for some time but am experiencing a bit of a relapse.... my body is tense and in "brace for it" mode. Going back to therapy this week and hoping that helps without the need for meds, but if I need to, I will.
Things that help most are: keeping busy - exercise/housework, or brain busy- numbers games like sodoku; prayer; progressive relaxation - though that is a challenge as thoughts will sneak in; nature sounds from CD or phone app to help with sleep.
Mirtazipine was the med that worked for me in the past. It did not make symptoms worse like others did with me. It has side effects of drowsiness and appetite stimulating - both of which I needed.
I have seen others on here post about Claire Weeks books. I've got to check that out. Best wishes and stay in touch.
Thank you so much! It was wonderful to wake up to these messages. I will ask about Mirtazipine this Wednesday. I hope your therapy goes well and please stay in touch as well.
Let us know how the doctors visit goes. I will also very likel be reporting after my therapy visit as it will be my first time in about three years and with someone new......little nervous about that.
I know what you are going through. I am sorry you are going through it. When I was going through it my pastor asked me some questions that helped, it may help you. " Have what you been thinking about and feeling anxious about came true?" Is it true? How many times have you thought the worse and it never happened? These questions really helped me to see more light in situations. Have you thought about writing down what your negative thoughts are and thinking of them, did they happen? they true to me? I am going to leave a resource that may help. You reaching out is encouraging , It makes known that you are strong and aware and that you will overcome this. bit.ly/2TOmLHC
Thanks. You're right in that so much of what I stress about never comes to be - and I know that. Even my wife keeps reminding me of that. These are habits I need to learn to manage. Thanks for the link!
My Pleasure, I wish you and your wife a well and whole life. So many blessings in life and we can't let fear or negative thoughts stand in the way of love and life. Although this life is full of struggles and can be so overwhelming with what we have to do and even the daily little stressors can build up, the positive and the love you have for your family can overcome all of the negativity. Thinking of you and your family.
I am glad you are here as well. Sometimes others can offer suggestions that we haven't thought of. You seem to already have found the support of this group helpful. Blessings to you and your family as you continue to seek the help you have already begun.
Thanks Charlee4. Tomorrow is a stressful day, but I have an appointment at 1:30 and my wife is in pretty good spirits so hopefully things will be alright. Thanks for reaching out!
The apps Headspace and Calm have really helped me when I’m at my worst. Headspace has a specific 30 day anxiety meditation. I listened to it at night and it got me to sleep through some really rough times. Or I’d listen in the morning when my anxiety was at its worst. Calm is amazing because you can use it for guided mediations, but they also have bedtime stories and music. I’ve also found writing down little journal entries about what I’m feeling on that day helps so I can get the thoughts out. It’s also helpful because I can flip back and compare progress. (It’s easy to forget a good day, but hard to forget all the bad days. Sometimes reading about a good day I had forgotten about helps). I hope you find relief soon! You’re not alone. I’m still struggling to find myself through all of this but I know recovery is possible. It is for you too! Good luck at your appointments tomorrow, they will help.
Thank you for those suggestions, acoates! I am going to check out Calm for sure. The journal idea sounds good as well. Today wasn't too bad of a day. I hope you're doing well and thanks for reaching out!!
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