Feeling very depressed lately and spouse is deployed

[Ramon123]

Hi everyone,

I'm started to get very depressed again like the early months of the pandemic. It feels like Groundhog Day, my spouse is deployed until October and I accepted a new job which has been very hard just due to I'm not sure what -- feeling out of the loop, feeling like I don't know what I'm doing, not really liking the position but feeling like I have to take whatever I can get at this point (which I think is how I've felt during my entire career. Is anyone else feeling this way? I feel like I wake up every morning feeling physically and mentally overwhelmed and shaky. Is anyone else feeling this way, and if so - did it get better or did something change for you where you stopped feeling like this?

[Stosh]

I can relate to waking up and feeling shaky. I also feel very isolated- sucks.

[Hidden]

Know the feeling was the same when I was just starting employement.

Yes it does get bet better although it is very rare especially in the early days

Eventually you will learn to accept this new part of your Life. Remember it is easier to find work when you are in work.

I was retired at 37 years old because of ill health. I never worked again. Believe me when I say been retired early can be just as bad as going to work

BOB

[Gadzukes]

Hi, yes I can really relate. I had been waking up like that since the beginning of the pandemic. Then serious life issues, and the isolation plunged me into depression. Luckily about 4 months ago I found a therapist who practices EMDR and it has helped me a lot. It can get better, hang in there. Sending a virtual hug🤗

[Ramon123 in reply to Gadzukes]

Thank you so much Gadzukes! I have been recommended to try EDMR as well - so glad it worked for you and that you're doing better.

[hypercat54]

Hi it's usual to feel unsettled and know nothing when it comes to a new job. It's all new and strange after all. I remember that feeling very well but be assured practise makes perfect and everyone feels that way at first. You think you are never going to get it but one day it suddenly clicks then you are up and running.

One job it took me ages to learn as there was a lot to remember but I plodded on and before I knew it a couple of years had passed and I was teaching new people! I thought how strange this was as I was the one now with the knowledge to pass on. It all goes in cycles. Keep going.

[Ramon123 in reply to hypercat54]

Thank you so much hyper cat. I guess the thing is I'm more "advanced" in my career and have taken stops and starts because of my husband's military service and so I feel like in some ways I'm not where I 'should' be and my last position was with a very small agency where I was comfortable and sort of doing one specific thing well and now I'm tasked with a much broader scope where I feel like most people my "age/rank" so to speak would already be comfortable with all this by now. I sometimes go through a shame loop where I'm not good enough or I have imposter syndrome where I'll eventually be found out that I haven't a clue what I'm doing.

[Missy84]

Hi, thank you for sharing. I have some experience of a partner being in the forces and it is very lonely at times. I also have really bad anxiety and depression too. At the minute I’ve been having cold sweats for months but slightly elevated body temp (for me anyway) tests come back absolutely fine so I guess anxiety has been to blame. You’re free to get in touch if you need to chat at all. Hope you’re ok.

[Ramon123 in reply to Missy84]

would love to chat with you about your experience.

[Missy84 in reply to Ramon123]

Anytime at all 😊