Depression blew my confidence away

[nutterbutter4]

I’ve been trying to manage & cope with my depression but one thing I have trouble with is how much it’s affected my confidence in a lot of ways. When it comes to making new friends, wanting to get a better job — I just always feel damaged & not good enough & that I’m going to let others down. I hate feeling that way & I’m aware that these negative thoughts are only making my life harder, so what can I do? Can anyone relate?

[Rayblade900]

Good morning nutterbutter4.I totally get where you're coming from. Add to my "middle age" and even worse when employment is concerned.

Starting new relationships is tough as I also feel damaged.

Just over a year ago I moved 150 miles to the Midlands to hopefully try and rekickstart my life.

No one understands as cannot see inside our heads. So take comfort you don't suffer alone. Best wishes.

[nutterbutter4 in reply to Rayblade900]

Thanks Rayblade. There is something comforting to know you’re not alone in how you feel even though the feelings themselves are pretty isolating. Thanks for writing. Best wishes for you as well!

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Why are you feeling depressed, to know the reason will help you know what caused your problem in the first instance. Therapy will help as you will talk to someone who is noy related to you the general public and those around you have little undertand Mental Health Concerns, physical health concerns are a different matter. Have you talked to your Doctor, are you taking any medication

BOB

[samack]

Oh my. I barely have confidence in getting out of bed some days. I can't relate to people anymore. You are certainly not alone.

[lovetodance2018]

Thank you for sharing. I can totally relate. What has helped me is positive self talk and not allowing my thoughts to control me. It takes staying strong and believing in myself which is the opposite with what happens when in a depressive episode. So when I am not struggling I practice these 4 things and they seem to help me.

1) Remind myself healing comes from the inside out. It starts with letting go of the things of the past, forgiving and changing our focus and behavior. Becoming aware of what you need through self-care and personal nourishment. Take time for yourself - you are worth it. Like taking walks, baths, massages, mani/pedi/, listening to uplifting music/sermons and anything that makes you feel refreshed and renewed.

2) The 557 breathing technique is take 5 deep breaths in while thinking good thoughts about yourself like I matter, I am special, I am strong and then hold the breaths for the count of 7 focusing on those words about yourself, then let out the breath slowly for 5 seconds letting go of any anxious, self-defeating, unhealthy thoughts. I do this one to three times a sitting.

3)The gratitude journal is writing down something good every morning and night something that went well in the day, or something I appreciate about myself. Taking our focus off of the anxiety and depression and focusing on positive uplifting things really helps. What you think is what you believe. So thinking uplifting things you believe those things but the reverse is true - thinking negative self-defeating things, you will believe those.

4) Emotional Freedom Tapping - Pressure points that you use tap on while you repeat positive uplifting things to yourself. (bit.ly/3A87QgF)

I will be praying for you. Feel free to pm me if you'd like to chat. Hugs and God Bless

[crowningglory19]

Oh honey, we are all damaged in some way. We can't get to adulthood without some scars, and remember that those trying to look most together and perfect many times have a lot of skeletons hiding in their closets. You are good enough!! You are a treasure, and depression does not take that away. Counter negative thoughts with positive truths over and over till you know it to be true. Nobody's perfect. But you are worth loving well, treat yourself as you would someone you love. Don't let happen to you what you would not let happen to someone you love dearly. Taking walks is great, esp in sun and without sunscreen for about 30 min to get your vitamin D which is a mood enhancer. Also, take a good vitamin with extra magnesium and extra Bs, since mag. calms your mind body and spirit and Bs heal your nerves and give you focus and energy. Ginseng is great too to get rid of sticky negative thoughts that loop and balance your emotions out. Get outside barefoot too to get grounded to the earth again, this is science. Listen to good music and breathe deep, drawing in peace and joy and pushing away anxiety/depression. You are loved and needed by many. <3

[lovetodance2018]

How are you doing this week? I have been praying for you. Hugs