I have been working so hard to make it the best birthday ever for mom, there’s this new thing I know she would love. Spidey and I have been taking the train more often trying to make it there. This museum just reopened again she never went even though she is dying to, she have been waiting on me cause I saw the pictures online and I know we would both love it there every time I mention it she kept saying ‘ nothing would make me happier than to go there with you so I will wait’
It’s so far and mentally I’m not there yet I don’t know if I can go that far out my comfort zone and not go into full panic mode and ruin her birthday completely I sent my therapist an email asking if there’s a way he can be there with us maybe I can try. Any advice guys (for those who don’t know me on here I’m agoraphobic)
Hey Danielle!! Missed you on here. I think that's awesome what you plan to do with your mom. it should be a really fun time. What kind of museum is it?
You'll never regret stepping out of your comfort zone for your mom. Maybe you could take something small that reminded you of your comfort zone. I once put a handkerchief in my living room for a week and then folded it up and took it on a two day stay away from my home when I was agoraphobic. When ever I felt nervous I took it out and acted like I was wiping my nose just to get the smell of my home. No one knew I just kept saying these dang allergies. It grounded me enough to keep me present. If your mom is a comfort to you which it sounds like she is you might end up needing nothing at all except your mom's arm to walk arm and arm with. Hope your mom has the best day with you!! Gentle hugs you can do this!! 🫂🫂
Sunflower 🌻 💗 You are so sweet to want to do this for your mom. The museum sounds amazing... bet you guys would have a ton of fun. Remember how far you have come... when we first "meet" going across the street was a huge step. You are so strong & brave Danielle, plus you have super support pup, Spidey. And your mom is pretty amazing too. I know this seems impossible... anxiety is good at making us believe it... Your family & your family/friends here know you got this, we believe in you. Talk it out with your therapist... continue to reach out. Whatever you decide will be okay... your mom will have a good birthday because she has you. 💗 Give her some birthday love from all of us. And extra treats to Spidey. Love you hun.
❤️❤️🌻🌻 Mel I’m really hoping since mom is here this time I will make it to that destination and we will have a great time, give my baby Hans a kiss for me
I’m waiting on his reply I think I’ll even feel better having him on the phone I do hope with all my heart that tomorrow will be an extra happy day being out with mom in a place that we both will enjoy and have fun in
The anticipation is often far worse than the actual event. I’m always texting my BFF about how terrible an event is going to be. She checks on me afterwards and it always goes better than I had expected.
I agree that we shouldn’t get too focused on our labels. We are each so much more than our labels…and labels can expire sometimes as we learn and grow.
I don’t always reply, although I do read many posts. I feel compelled to respond to you Callmedanielle because I want to really encourage you to try this really difficult activity with your mom. I have done some difficult things (contamination OCD) to spend time with my mom and I am so glad I did not let the lies of anxiety rob me of that special time with her. As others have mentioned, the anticipation is usually much worse than actually doing the task. We only have a limited time in this earth with the people we love. Don’t beat yourself up if you really can’t go, but maybe try another time. Your mom will love spending time with you anytime of the year. And don’t worry about making it a perfect birthday for her…I often get stuck with high expectations. Try your best to do what you can is all you need to do to have a special day with your mom!! You got this!👍💪🏼
❤️❤️🌻 thank you so much for these words and you’re right I barely slept that night and I was a wreck while getting ready but we did make it and it was unforgettable, my mother means the world to me and we were all smiles on her birthday. I will never forget this
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