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Gf birthday tomorrow Help

Bigt966
Bigt966

Hi.

I get this problem every year leading up to gf birthday weeks in advance thinking of stuff to get or things todo but because i get anxious and nervous i get to a day before like today and have nothing planned and no gift. Ive locked myself in the bathroom now and really upset cause yet another year i ruin her birthday. I have got enough money so thats never an issue. I want to make her feel special but my problems get in the way once again. I feel like s##t cause i always think she would get better looked after by someone else on her birthday and im a failure.

Help.

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If you have a problem finding something for her birthday, you could buy a blank birthday card and write down how you feel about her. Dig deep and come up with some true ways of why you love her, I bet that would mean a lot to her. Peace!

Bigt966
Bigt966
in reply to Hidden

Im in town now feel panicky and upset

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in reply to Bigt966

Good you made it to town. Can you buy a card or something you may have thought of?

Bigt966
Bigt966
in reply to Hidden

I got a card but she deserves a gift. She deserves someone better then me

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in reply to Bigt966

As Flaweddesign mentioned dinner.. would you be up for that?

Bigt966
Bigt966
in reply to Hidden

I booked a table with all kids and her sister and bf but cause a get anxious and nerves kick it she said better not do meal incase i get funny on the night and ruin it

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in reply to Bigt966

How about just you and her?

Bigt966
Bigt966
in reply to Hidden

U no what i love her so much. She is a fun bubbly person and im just a nervous wreak around people so unsociable just want her to be happy and have good day. I now trying to calm down with a pint of beer on my own. Why am i so negative?

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in reply to Bigt966

Perhaps with beer and pen in hand you can write it down for her :) I don't recommend beer as an answer but as you already have one :)

Bigt966
Bigt966
in reply to Hidden

I dont either its last thing i would do with normal head on but my chest is hurting and just got pulled in to relax. Pen and paper . write what? How im feeling right now?

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in reply to Bigt966

Yes you could do that if it makes you feel better. I was thinking about writing in her card how much you love her.

Bigt966
Bigt966
in reply to Hidden

Wow what a day. I got 3 gifts . walked i to same shop 6 times before getting courage to get what i went in there for. Still wasnt able to talk very well cause my nerves and was very sweaty. So googled what i wanted and show them a phot which was easier. Wish i could just be more confident .im tired.

See how it gos down in morning.

Dinner is booked for 7 pm tomorrow evening. Hope i dont screw it up.

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in reply to Bigt966

Wow that is great Bigt966! You figured out a way to get through it. You should be proud! Good luck with dinner.. stay in touch! :) :) :)

I don't know what she likes but online you can get spa certificates or some nice dinner for two is always nice. Just let her know how she is appreciated.

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in reply to Flaweddesign

Dinner is always nice :)

hey dont be beating yourself up with worry.sometime the simple things in life are all a person wants.with your card place a hand written note with it telling her how you really feel.makes it feel more real.

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