Memories

[Lostonceagain]

I don't really understand why,but I never seem to remember the good things in my life. Its like it gets erased, all I remember is when things are wrong. I remember a little bit of good things and try to focus on it but all I get is a little piece. Anything thats depressing I remember every detail and I don't have to focus on it, it just keeps going and going further down the rabbit hole of the times I should of been better or was hurt. I wish that I could remember more good and happy things but its like its just not there?

[Opportunity]

It is there. This sounds like me, and I have childhood trauma. I spent a lot of time focused on the future and how not to get yelled at. I spent a lot of time thinking about avoiding pain, so not a lot of brain paths exist for the good stuff. But the brain can change itself. It can create new pathways to an unbelievable degree.

One of my goals in the next 30 days is to have six memory-making experiences that are fun and new. Do you know how hard this is?? I bet you do. It’s hard work to actively seek out the good when your brain is wired solely to avoid the bad. I mean, it’s hard.

[Lostonceagain in reply to Opportunity]

I mean I try to make good memories,but always mess it up somehow. And nothing really seems new now, it all feels the empty. All I ever really wanted to find was love, cause I think thats the only thing I've never really had.. most people just pretend to, they're always just looking for somebody with money or someone other than me

[Hidden in reply to Opportunity]

True. But. Whose. More deserving Than u guys

Love being right. Ahhhh

[Hidden]

Just the mind

In college they always warned professors that it take ten good times to over come one bad experience at school. Etc

Universal and teaches us adsptuveky

Dang not going to touch a hot stove again

One way that helps me is pour a lot of sugar and creams in my dark coffee I listen to great music but over abs over agai then it plays as I go through hard times I’m packing my subconscious with good stuff. Funny movies or happier stuff or diversionary hobbies to add to the dark stuff in my mind

That just me tho.

But yes neg experiences can persist What would u recommend fir me? How can I repack my suitcase so to speak?

[Hidden]

IUd say

Brig. Then make new great or good memories

U know

Ur right. Great idea