Why Bother

[Dragon3695]

Woke up today in a Eeyore kinda mood feeling like why bother. No matter how much effort I seemingly put into the struggle I just feel like it isn't really worth all the hassle especially when it almost always feels like the world is against you. I struggle day in and day out to lose weight and I'm back up to 315 from almost 300 because I just can't stay out of my own head and stop listening to the devil on my shoulder. Lately I hardly have an appetite and when I do I can't get enough to eat. Some times I can hardly even get out of bed in the morning or even stay awake. I know I want things to change but that isn't even possible unless I can stick to some sort of healthy routine. I guess I'm just lacking the drive to keep trying to make things better anymore and I realize the older I get the harder it gets to change. So. Much. Struggling.

[bytesized]

I feel ya. I don't struggle with weight, but just living in general. What's the point of it? I woke up with an Eeyore mood as well today, and thought about him as well, funnily enough.

I don't have answers for you. I just understand the feeling. You ain't alone.

[Moemonster]

It is a struggle. Daily. One comment I recently heard that helps me is that ‘we have to parent ourselves’. And, it’s true. We have to make ourselves do the things we don’t want to do. Go to the dr, the therapist, take our meds, make our beds, shower. We have to make ourselves do those things. And, little by little it might help. Heck, even if it makes one day go a little better or faster that’s an improvement. How do we get rid of that heaviness in our chests? The million dollar question. Sending love your way and a hug 🤗

[froggymom88]

My daughter is has the same struggle, daily. Just don't give up. Take each day one day at a time. If you have to take it one hour at a time. Try to increase your activity. Whatever you can do is good. Do not look at your failures but your successes. Hugs.

[Dragon3695]

I need to increase my activity level for sure but my issue is not wanting to do anything alone without someone I know as well as just not having the drive to push myself to do what I need to constantly

[Hidden in reply to Dragon3695]

Hi Dragon,

Why don't you join an online exercise group? Especially ones that are diverse, open to everyone, not one just for men. When you join together every week you get to see familiar faces and start talking because your common goal is get fit and getting to know each other and hopefully have some laughs.

[Dragon3695 in reply to Hidden]

Sounds like a good solid idea. I might have to look into it. Instill meed to get out more though because in all honesty I have 1 face to face friend. Every other friend I have is online and my one irl friend is also the only person I talk to besides my therapist so it is starting to put a strain on her

[Hidden]

Well, you can invite those online friends out to walk with you following covid rules. My son recently had a socially distanced lunch after they lifted the restrictions here in the UK. Or organise a twice weekly on line exercise group on a theme or learn a dance routine or karaoke night with a few drinks to lubricate the tonsils and to give you some Dutch courage. The point is to bring everyone together to have fun , build stronger relationships, to feel a sense of enjoyment and to build good memories.

[Dragon3695 in reply to Hidden]

Yeah. My best friend has some late birthday plans for me when her friend is no longer sick and can join us. I am really looking forward to that. I never really celebrate my birthday so it will be interesting especially since I told her she was in charge and I would do whatever she planned

[Hidden]

There you go, something to get excited!🥳🍾🍷🎂

[Hidden]

Think good thoughts, start psyching yourself up for your birthday party. Listen to happy songs. Stay away from powerfully emotional music and songs that evoke bad feelings. Make a playlist of headbanging tunes, tunes where you want to dust down your air guitar and really give it some welly.🤪😂