My "Why bother?" Mindset

[Mrspjsmom]

Every day I wake up hoping this day will be better. I have fallen into a "Why bother?" mindset. Why bother cleaning the house? No one comes to visit because my husband is a nurse and there is concern about CoVid. Why bother going to the store? I have more than I need and nothing I want. Why bother sorting through clutter and things I don't use? I hate to throw out things someone may need but the local thrift stores are limiting donations. Why bother taking a shower and doing my hair? I'm not going anywhere and my fibromyalgia pain is so severe washing and drying my hair is painful. Why bother cooking? I'm not hungry and if that changes there are leftovers. But I am so tired of Why bother. I am trying to change that mindset to something more positive and productive. I just can't seem to figure out how to do that.

[Smarticus]

Hi, I'm right there with you! why bother has turned into 'what's the point' I find it so hard to get motivated and I'm so tired all I want to do is sleep. In the good times/days I try to have a list of things to do every day, even if it is something silly, wash up, go for a walk, put the bins out... I then tick them off and feel like I have achieved something...

[Mrspjsmom in reply to Smarticus]

Some days I make a list of things I did like feed the dog, brush the cat (long haired so he gets mats if I don't) Small things but enough to realized I did something.

[Hidden]

Right there with you....I was never like this....then trauma entered my life. Every day is a damn struggle..and I have it all..house, hubby, kids, money. No one is immune to this thing called depression.

[Mrspjsmom in reply to Hidden]

No one is. But the ironic thing about depression is we are actually stronger than many people. Just getting through the day can be draining yet others see us as weak.

[Hidden in reply to Mrspjsmom]

Definitely.....it is horrible....I am 62....never was like this until 3 years ago. Every day is a struggle so yes, we are strong.....I just don’t know how long I can remain that way,

[Annabelle61]

I have felt like this so much since Covid started - why bother because who knows when things will be better. I also seem to be waiting for the next horrible thing to happen - I can have months of normal then all of a sudden - there it is again . Currently on 10mg Lexapro- have been on & off for years - try to walk everyday but spend a lot of time alone until my hubs gets home from work - I did start trying to daily do Calm app - a mindfulness program on the phone - and lots of praying ! I wish you well !

[Mrspjsmom in reply to Annabelle61]

I also wish you well. Hard to deal with so much uncertainty. Things seem to change constantly which makes it worse. But we're not alone. That helps.

[Tiggerakafidgity]

Hi Mrs

Just quickly popping past and saw this.im right with you where you are right now.

You don’t really want to escalate to anything worse other wise the confidence will go and then the self belief system and it took me a while if not yrs to ge my out of the hole.

Please seek CBT

Yup I know,I hear you say it doesn’t work,ppl say it doesn’t work.

I’ve adhd and I had CBT twice and nothing.then I got diagnosed with adhd started my meds had CBT about a month later and then I got it and it worked.youve to really stretch your mind admit things never before and oh do the home work and if they don’t give you the paper work to take home ask for it.

It’s hard going but it can make a difference.it can alter the way the thought process acts and helps you think in a more positive constructive way.

Give ya doc a call and ask for some.

If your in the Uk you can refer your self with a phone call to Time to talk

Best wishes

Good luck

[Mrspjsmom]

Thanks for the suggestion. I will look into it.