How do you figure out what causes our anxiety, depression, sadness, etc? Often we don't know the root of why we feel the way we do. Talking out how you are feeling is so important. We are designed to share and reach out to people. The problem is sometimes we don't know who to reach out to, and if we reach out to the wrong person and are hurt, we shut down. This is why if you are struggling please reach out to a professional counselor. They have the education and skills to help you find strategies to help and search for the root. I learned often we are self-defeating with our thoughts about ourselves. My prayers are for you today to reach out and get the help you need to feel better. We can all feel better with the right help. Blessings to everyone.
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It's also good to keep in mind that depression for example...is a disease....and a chemical imbalance in the brain....so there is no specific 'reason' we are sad or depressed, we just are. Another thing to keep in mind when looking for a therapist is to get the right one for you....'a good fit'....therapists are people too....and if you’re a women who is more comfortable talking to a women....then that's a consideration to keep in mind...as well as some therapists specialize more in an area like anxiety and depression, or grief and loss, or other mental health issues.
Thanks for making this point. Ive speant so long trying to find reasons for why i feel the way i feel. Its led me to blaming the people in my life for causing my sadness and anger. Really, i should be in charge of my own emotions. Ive turned into someone who hates the people around me. I hate the people i should love. If they could just follow through id be okay. If they couldjust care more id be okay. Etc etc etc. Meanwhile im not okay. A missed phone call and im in tears. A harsh word and my world has ended. Im a complete disaster. Its no one elses fault. Im just broken.
The disease of depression if you have it is only part of the story....there is also: 'nature' vs. 'nurture.' Even though I was born with this chemical imbalance in my brain..I also had a lot of hard knocks as a kid...abuse, abandonment, bulling, lots of stuff. All that just made my anxiety and fears worse, because my trust issues were gone. I had no family support for most of my young impressionable years, no protector, no caregiver, basically no love. I was treated badly and that reflects on how thin skinned I can be at times when my depression kicks in. So that's another reason to get a good fit with a therapist who understands your issues.
My anger came from all the above stuff....my boundaries being crossed as a kid. Not feeling safe, no one there to save me from monsters who hurt kids. And a mother who was indifferent to it all even when she was around....all of that left me with a lot of anger....so there are some real reasons too that we over react sometimes, are easily hurt, expect more from people when they are already giving us all they are willing to give. Resentments piling up over small things to others, which are big things to us....keeping mental lists of all who wronged us, and we get angry....push people away. When really all we want is someone to make us feel okay.
Thank you for sharing. It sounds like you have had a really hard life. I am glad that you have the right help. I also needed medication to help with the chemical imbalance. I am actually afraid to try going off it again for fear of a relapse. I have relapsed about 1/2 dozen times, two times to severe depression and hospitalization. It is so awesome that we are here for each other. Thank you. xoxoxo..,
if you don't mind me asking ....why do you feel you need to go off your meds?
No I don't mind you asking. The last psychiatrist I saw mentioned that I should consider it since I have been doing so well. That was before my life turned upside down and we had to move from a place I lived for 16+ years, all the friends I have know, my job, and my home. I haven't felt like I needed to find a psychiatrist where I am living now, the regular doctor keeps up my prescription. I guess I just wonder if I need to be on medication the rest of my life, or if I should try going off of it again. I will of course discuss it with my medical doctor before tapering off. My concern is I don't want to struggle since it has been over two years since I have had any triggers or symptoms.
Some forms of depression, and anxiety that are considered temporary, and may be fixed with medication on a short term limited cycle of prescription. Some people like me, are diagnosed with depression as a long term condition that will need to be maintained throughout my life, and that entails me taking a low dose of an SSRI until someone invents a cure. The biggest mistake many who are on SSRI's do, is after a long period of time of feeling better, they may think they no longer need medication, and if they stop taking their SSRI's it could have consequences, or you may be one of those lucky few that do not need meds. Glad you’re going to talk to your doctor first as you would want to slowly wein off them of course.
Thank you for the insight. I am not sure if I am one of the ones who can go without medication. So I think I will wait for a while before even considering it.
I will tell you from my own experience.....I didn't have the money for a while to pay for my SSRI's....and I thought I would be able to just taper off and be okay....well.....that didn't work out so well for me.....and I found myself in a worse place than I remember being in before I was on my antidepressent....of course it didn't help that I was going through a fairly rough time in my life either....
It's okay not to be okay 
You are not alone! 
Lets say that if you had one "Adrenal Gland" surgically removed, and it cut your anxiety by say 50 to 70%, would you do it ?
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I don't understand what's going on..
