This is Sucks!!

[Ilovepugs123]

I hate living at home because my brother gets mad over everything and he reminds me of my dad, my dad used to be the same way, just getting mad out of nowhere and my brother has been doing the same thing. My mom and I are walking on eggshells around him, and I hate that feeling. My mom was telling me that when I put something in the sink and the sink leaks so when you put a bowl or a plate in the sink and the water leaks he hears that and gets mad and my mom told me that he almost broke the sink head because of how mad he was and there isn't anything to be mad at all. My brother is very picky about a lot of things and I feel like he has a mental illness and it gets worse every day I honestly think he is Bipolar because it runs in my family and he has signs of it and he has issues sleeping so I feel like he has Bipolar disorder but I just don't know what to do I am so unhappy now living here and when he works its the best times because he works almost all day but this weekend was long because of Easter and all that and he got a half-day on Friday so it feels like a long weekend and honestly I know people are going to say just talk to him but I honestly can't my anxiety gets worse and when he gets mad it triggers me because of how my dad was back then when my parents used to be married, its just a trigger for me and I honestly just want to move out but can't.

[hypercat54]

Well if he is working then surely he can afford to leave home? Why doesn't your mother tell him to leave and find his own place? Have you talked about it with her?

[Ilovepugs123 in reply to hypercat54]

My Brother Supports us meaning he gets our groceries when my mom doesn't have the money so he pretty much supports us. He doesn't make enough money to live on his own he used to live with his friends and he couldn't afford it so he moved back home. My mom and I do talk about him only when he gets mad or maybe he's not himself but I mean there isn't really anything we can do that's why I prefer moving out and being independent but I don't have money and I have no friends to help me out so I'm pretty much stuck.

[hypercat54 in reply to Ilovepugs123]

Can either you or your mum do anything about earning more money? That would seem to be the answer. Worry about yourselves and not your brother not being able to afford to leave home. If he works all day he clearly has enough to help support you both so I don't see why he can't afford to live with flatmates? Unless he spends his money unwisely.

Are there any benefits you or your mother could get to help you money wise? Have you checked? I don't know the system where you are but there might be something you have overlooked.

[Ilovepugs123 in reply to hypercat54]

My mom and I don't drive so it's very hard to make money for us and I been trying to find someone who can teach me how to drive but I don't have many friends or family help at all. It's very hard for my mom and me to make money and when we don't have money it's not much at all.

[froggymom88]

Hi llovepugs123. I'm sorry about the situation you and your mom find yourselves in. Is there anyone in the family who can speak to him about his behavior? Someone he might listen to.

[DodgeDhanda]

Your brother is doing a monkey see monkey do act. How old is he? When he gets angry at stupid things ask him why can't he fix them as the man of the house would do. Your home is supposed to be your safe place & he needs to realise that he is making life hell !!! If that doesn't work then as your mom is the adult it's time help was sort from the authorities . Have him checked out for any mental health issues & then get him the help he needs & the love of his family too.

[Gentlespirit]

Ask him whats wrong and right in his life. Reassure him love him , ask what you can do to help him.