Why do people think that I invite anxiety and depression like I choose it?

[Roaming_Randomly]

I mean they think like I decide whether i should be depressed or not. Or I decide that i have to be anxious now. They say like stop being depressed and keep yourself away from anxiety ..like...what? How? ...what does it mean...i am not doing it.... i cant stop it..

[Hidden]

When someone doesn't understand a problem they come up with a basic solution. It's like telling people who've survived a sunami to not live so near the water.

[Roaming_Randomly in reply to Hidden]

Exactlyy..and it hurts more..specially if it is from ur loved ones

[Hidden in reply to Roaming_Randomly]

I'm guessing they don't mean it but I know it still hurts.

[Roaming_Randomly in reply to Hidden]

Yes they also feel helpless bcz they dont know what to do i guess..

[Hidden in reply to Roaming_Randomly]

Yeah your right, try not to forget they still love you and care for you. Sometimes they've just not got a great at showing it.

[Windsorgardener5087]

Hi 👋, These people are coming from a position of ignorance and misunderstanding of what mental illness is.🤔 Knowing about mental health requires learning about it either as a lived experience, carer or supportive friend if not a trained provider. Mental health specialists and our forum members often can work with you to work with you to nut out a few words to reply to these people. The main thing is you feel comfortable with the choice of words and feel strong enough to challenge the faulty thinking. All the best 🦘

[Roaming_Randomly in reply to Windsorgardener5087]

Yeah you are right... ugh i got angry bcz a very close person told me those lines

[Geckoflower]

It happend to me too a lot of times, It's probably because they don't understand what you're going through. Take care! You're going to be okay.

[Roaming_Randomly in reply to Geckoflower]

Yeah i better make myself okay

[Rayblade900]

Hi and hope you're doing ok.I have experienced this too. An employer once said about me "why does he walk around looking miserable"? Unless in our heads no one can tell what we're thinking or feeling. Everyone's level of depression is different. Other replies here have said it... ignorance, lack of understanding and/or empathy! It's horrific when one minute you feel ok and then boom! I started the C25K to help myself. Hang in there and take care.

[Roaming_Randomly in reply to Rayblade900]

You are right.. thank you!! I am fine now