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Why do I forget how anxieties feel?

I know I have anxieties almost everyday I'm on meds. But why when I have a bad anxiety I dont know how to calm myself. Like I forget how they feel and I'm so scared. Like right now I'm having an anxiety attack and I'm so scared like I don't know what to do. But I've been here before. Help.

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sorry you're having this!!!💞it's rough- you're not alone just try take some deep breaths!!🌻

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You i do have a hard time doing the breathing excersises. Like it's so hard for me to do.

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yes it can be hard! sometimes magnesium powder in warm water helps me to calm down and just breathe and relax! and slowly just blow out all air in lungs and then count to ten or so and repeat! Sometimes really soothing beautiful and relaxing music can help! or if blood sugar is off maybe some healthy protein snacks like veggies/ hummus, turkey, almond butter on apples or banana these can just help calm balance blood sugar and or brain chemistry. Some calming herbal tea??just some ideas that can help maybe?☺️

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I'm a start my teas all over again, I hope they help with my muscle tensions. Like right now my left arm feels so tense. I just keep thinking the worst. But I know I'm healthy I know I got this. But right now I just want to cry

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don't hold on your tensions let them go & that's great if the tea you mentioned was helpful to you before!& well if you need to cry don't be afraid-to hav a good cry!!!sometimes a good cry is therapeutic and cleansing!!😭

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I want to really cry but I feel like I can't anymore I've cried so much this year that I'm tired of it. But I really do feel like crying

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Its my experience that when I start being tired of crying, I am finally turning the corner of accepting things the way they are and wanting to have a life again. Ups and downs still happen but happiness starts to return along with a little hope and ability to actually think further into the future than a few seconds or a few minutes. For me, each step toward recovery takes years but I found myself thanking God today for my life and my job and even wondering if there might be a nice lady in my future. Boy, it has been a lot of years since I thought these things. I'm still manic depressive and require meds to stabilize my moods but I am learning to trust my meds and believe a nice life might be possible. Just my two cents. I don't know if it helps but I hope it does at least a tiny bit.

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if you have something that's really hurting /bothering you on your mind you maybe write/post on here about some of it if it could help??

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The only thing that bothers and bothers me is thinking that I'm really sick. Like the doctors missed something. I have 4 kids and I always worry that they will loose me. Or I them. My anxieties kick my butt at times.

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oh that's rough!! but don't let them get the best of you!! challenge the negative thoughts!! Try and feed your mind with uplifting, positive affirmations and thoughts as much as you can!! Prayer can really help- just pouring heart out! do you ever journal?

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I was journaling but I get cought up on how good I feel that I forget to write in it. But it was helping me especially in moments like this. I dislike my anxieties, right now I'm so tense especially my left side. Like I want to run and scream and go to the hospital.

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I really Hope you can feel better , have some peace&lot less of the tension!! what are your favorite things in life? foods, colors, places? fun things you've done??

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My favorite things in life are my kids. God blessed me with 4 awesome kidsand then he went on and blessed me with 2 granddaughters. They are my world. I love them so much. They are the reason why I do my best to get better.

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Wow that's a beautiful blessing!!! I don't have kids yet!! maybe1day! Im sure you're a great Mom & grandma -so be proud of that& !!😊🌻🌷🌼🌺yeay!!!!

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I say I am an awesome mom and grandma. But with these anxieties I feel worthless

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No don't say that!! As long as you have love & be there best you can that's most important thing!!!

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These anxieties kick my butt at times. Like today is one of them. My chest feels tense like acid reflux. My mind us telling me I'm sick. But my heart tells me I'm healthy I'm physically healthy. I know I got this i know God is on my side. This is nothing I can't handle I know this.

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Try to breathe slowly in through your nose out through your mouth & concentrate on that...boy I hope this is of some help for you! Peace! XXX

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You know I've been having a hard time doing the breathing excersises. I'm trying but it's hard.

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Don't give up....YOU can do this , stay strong & positive...I know that can be difficult! XXX

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It can but I'm trying. I just woke up and let me tell you my arms feel so tingly like if all my nerves are all over the place. I'm probably still having an anxiety attack or my blood pressure up. I dislike all these sensations.

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I understand! Stinks like a dump! Hope will grow if you Believe! Hang in there, I'm here for you! Love & Hugs! XXX

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I know I'm good I know I got this. So when you have anxiety do any of your arms feel heavy? Yesterday it was my right arm then later on in the day it was my left and now it's my right arm again.

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No I don't get those kind of symptoms...everyone is different. XXX

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It hasn't happened since then but I get it ever so often. But I know it's jyst a feeling

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Its strange the way it effects everyone in a different way! How are you now? XXX

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We have to learn how to have a different relationship with our anxiety. One that allows this anxiety to be a friend and not the enemy. This enemy robs us of any joy and comfort. We have learn how to be less on guard and more comfortable when these times come. I’m trying to learn how to give these feelings there space, they are just feelings and they can’t hurt us. When this happens just label them as “feelings” than return to your breath, or any other distraction. As soon as it comes back just label them again as feeling and return back to a distraction. First we have to learn how to label these thoughts and feelings. These feelings and thoughts can’t hurt us, it how we react when o them that is hurting us. Label them thoughts or feelings, distract yourself like deep breathing than give them to god.

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Thank you. They are just feelings and can't hurt me ok. I will remember that

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My favorite distraction is lying on the couch surrounded by my 3 dogs, listening to piano classical music and breathing slowly and purposefully. I’m a classic rock and roll fan at heart, but desperate feelings require desperate actions! My preferences for music are, “Liszt” “Chopin” or “Beethoven“ you can visit YouTube and easily find all 3. Look for it to advertise relaxing music. Wonderful and pleasant distraction for me! I have decidedly begun to love it, although I still prefer rock and roll! My dogs love it too and fall right to sleep! You have some great advice on this thread...sending you hugs!!

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I love classical music I need to start listening to it again. It really does help. Thank you

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Anxiety is a tough thing to deal with! I deal with anxiety attacks as well and what helps me is to go outside and get fresh air! There is something about the outside air that really calms me down. I hope everything gets better!

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