How to deal with hypocritical family?

[Akahanga]

My family is full of hypocrites. They move around saying am mentally disturbed yet when I do good things they get angry completely and move around gossiping lies about me. This has caused me to fill suicidal like I can't perform or do anything worthwhile. I fear for my future. Its like I have none because of my family. What do I do?

[Efthimiades]

You surround yourself with good , kind, compassionate, empathetic, genuine people. Friends can be family too, you don't have to b related. Don't let family guilt you into feeling anything negative. If it starts, leave. Do not fight back. Just leave. If you suffer from anything, they will not understand and its not worth trying to change ANYTHING about them. When someone is mean to me, even just a little, I dwell on it. I can't let it go. But we have to.

These idiots do not understand us, they never will. Good luck 💓

[Akahanga in reply to Efthimiades]

Thank you so much for your advise. I never thought I would find support. Thank you it means a lot and I will take it to heart.

[froggymom88]

Do We are here to listen. What do you need to say? have a therapist? You need someone you can talk with about this who can give you guidance. Even a good friend can be a blessing and help you recognize your self worth. Sometimes family just don't understand and don't mean to be so hurtful.

[Akahanga in reply to froggymom88]

Thank you dear for your advise. At the moment it's hard to find support that's why I came to this venue. The therapist I have leans more to the family and doesn't support my thoughts that's why I came here. I hope could be among those who continue to support whenever I have a question or two. Thanks otherwise for your support.

[PurpleSynesthesia]

Hi there,

I won't repeat the good advice that's already been said but I'd like to add, if that's OK?

Judging from your post, you can already see that you have done genuinely good things and your family are not seeing it that way. I know that hurts & I'm sure this runs very deep but just remember that regardless what label others put to your actions, you know they were good things.

Perhaps keep a personal diary of good things you've done & any good feedback you get from anyone (including us screen-buddies😉), positive stuff that you experience in the day, things that are helpful & beneficial, kind, gentle, exciting, smile-inducing etc - then make time to go back & read those things when you're feeling oppressed. Remind yourself that bad moments and bad days are not the whole picture, they're just tiny fragments and are in no way attached to your identity.

Sometimes people just don't realise how much their words hurt & it's not up to you to try & change those people but it is up to you to take care of yourself & enjoy the life you've been given as much as you can. People will see you for who you really are, but sometimes those closest to us take the longest to see that.

All the best 😊

[Akahanga in reply to PurpleSynesthesia]

I truly appreciate your advise you nailed it. I need to start knowing am something special not what my family believes I am or tries to make me believe. It's hard to envision this but I will try to hold my head high.