First post; general thought on opening up

Honestly, this was hard to write this simply because besides my girlfriend, I quite literally talk to nobody. Now, by no means is that anything reflective to her but, moreso myself and my overall reluctance to talk to others and have an overall desire to keep things to myself.

I suppose my question is, has anybody felt better talking to somebody even remotely close you trust? I try to think of it as a way of letting off steam of a pressure cooker as stress wise, you can see it's rather hard for me to cope when I don't have many areas to turn to.

In a way, posting anonymously feels like a church confessional so I was simply hoping if anybody had similar experiences and how that turned out for you or somebody you know.

[KinokoNekoKun]

You came to the right place! Here you can feel open to talk about anything and everything that is going on because 9 times out of 10, one of us are feeling the same way! Talking about problems and feelings are also a great way to heal and to get other opinions on how to solve those problems! I find it easier typing about what is wrong versus putting it into words out loud because this gives me time to think about what I want to say. You can re-read what you put and reflect on how you feel and change or add things if you need too. And so far the advice I have received has been very helpful and amazing. I really hope this helps you like it is helping me! We are here for you!

[Hidden]

I only ever open up to the people who are willing to hear me out and actually care about my well being. It’s not my family,but one close friend I am grateful to have. Sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesn’t. Sometimes I feel like I just caused myself to be even more anxious. Sometimes it releases my pent up anger.

But, if you feel it will release the steam, I suggest you try something new! I met someone who was in the same situation, but he took on the challenge to overcome his fear despite anxiously tapping his feet. We did not judge him at all. More so, we were happy to hear him confine in us to get help he was seeking for, and deserved.

[Choctawgirl]

May I ask a couple questions? Are you an introvert? Do you have trust issues? I am an extrovert so, yes, I blab my mouth off to people I trust! It's so relieving even if they just listen. Most of the time the person will have a similar situation and tell me about it or the person will offer suggestions, which is fine.

I think it's good to have someone who you trust to tell things to. Holding it in....is not good! Hugs!!!🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[Hidden in reply to Choctawgirl]

Yeah of course-

I do have trust issues and can confidently say I am an introvert. I do have a small circle of friends and while I don't really engage or talk to them, I am often surprised when they come to me for advice. I don't judge and earnestly give them my view of things. It's just I can't see myself doing that the other way for them.

[Choctawgirl in reply to Hidden]

If your small circle of friends know how you are, and they are ok with you and you are ok with them, then that's ok. If they know that you are in introvert, they hopefully would understand. Any information that you can give to them, whenever they come to you I would hope would be fine. If they want any other info, they can go to others.

As for trust issues, it's very hard to gain someone's trust. It's even harder if that trust is betrayed. I hope you and your gf have good trust between you two. And I hope you and your friends trust one another.

Hugs!

[Bigbrighteyes96]

I find it difficult talking about things that make me anxious and depressed. I am embarrassed by some of the stuff I get worked up about and think other people will think i'm odd if I told them. The other day I found the courage to tell a group I use about something, and just doing that felt like a weight was lifted off my shoulders. You are in a safe place here so please feel free to open up and share anything you like.

[Gentlespirit]

My heart goes out to you its really really a difficult situation and I have reached out in friendship and been reay hurt or taken advantage of and thats wby I prefer to not be known. Some people can be very cruel and I thought that tears of pain that a person would have compassion yet I was laughed at instead. Anyway I think that a site like this can help to a certain degree. Try it. Nothing beats a failure than a try. You can leave and come back when you want. Take care.

[Gentlespirit]

Its a risk like anything in life yet I think its good to get some things off your chest whether you get some replies or not. Its about trying to help each other and because if we don't try something then what is the alternative. Be kind to yourself reassuring its not easy yet some people do care. I care and I believe others care too. Give yourself a chance.

[Hidden]

Honestly, I'd rather just be able to speak to a partner....if you're in a good relationship she will tell you the truth in a non hurtful way. So I think you are quite lucky. Opening up to strangers isn't easy is it?

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Oh yeah, my girlfriend is wonderful and have been with her for seven years. It's just after college, all your friends head off either to the opposite side of the state or just completely to another one so for the past couple years it has quite literally just been with her.

While we both have are share of issues, a second opinion of my views seems needed. Even in great relationships I feel like a partner may partially view you in rose tinted glasses.