Having anxiety is really hard.

My friends and i were talking about someone who have severe depression and anxiety. But i didnt respond that much because they only judged and they seem dont understand or probably dont care about the feeling of living your life with depression and anxiety. I have anxiety by the way. I could say its pretty bad. And they know i have anxiety but they just keep talking like i wasnt there. They make it sounds like people who have anxiety is just people who seek for attention. "You know life is just not about you. So stop talking about yourself and your anxiety" Well, i'm feeling really mad there but i did not say anything.

And then suddenly theyre talking about me.

"Look, we know you have anxiety. But please dont be so panic or anxious about everything. You get so anxious about every little thing. Try to control it. It's a bother to us (i really didnt see this coming from them) every time you text and tell us that you get anxious about that you get anxious about this you panic about this and that. Please dont make people around you uncomfortable just because you have anxiety or panic attack."

And they're laughing. I'm not lying...theyre laughing at me because i have anxiety and i cant control it. Like bitch, im trying my best here to not feeling anxious 24/7. You dont know how hard it is to live with anxiety, right??? It feels like your life would fall apart in any second. Sometimes myself dont even realize it if THIS the anxiety attack or just something else. I would love to control my fricking goddamn anxiety if i can but it's really hard. It's not as easy as it looks. I dont know am i too sensitive or what? Or is this really my fault by talking to them whenever i feel like i have anxiety kicking in? I mean they're my BEST friends so i thought they could at least make me feel a little bit at ease. But i guess they have their limit.

So i tell them that i'm sorry if im bothering both of them with my anxiety problem all this time. I promise that i will not do that again.

WELL, I guess i wont text them about "THAT" anymore.

So tell me guys, how to cope with anxiety? I wanna try it since my friends dont want me to bother them anymore.

Thank you and have a nice day/night!

[Shnookie]

Hi I’m Shnookie. I’m here 4 U and giving U a big hug 🤗. Do U have a therapist and R U on meds ? I’m bipolar/ADHD and 62 and have been this way basically this way mywhole life I feel 4 U. U can learn cognitive therapy. This can help slow down your thoughts and break down things into smaller pieces. U can view meditation videos which can help U regulate your breathing and clear your head. U can listen to music U enjoy that will distract U and put U in a better mood. I don’t want to be intrusive but COVID has turned a lot of our lives upside down. If this has happened to U

then U have a reason 4 extra anxiety. Want U to know that people in this group R supportive and have your back.

I’m here 4 U hugs 🤗 Shnookie

[Hidden in reply to Shnookie]

Hey Shnookie! Thank you for replying to my post!

No, i dont have therapist and im not on meds. Nobody knows i have anxiety/gad except my friends. I'm really thinking should i go to therapist or not but i'm really scared

When i have anxiety i cant help but playing with my nails or peeling my lips until its bleeding and i wont be able to concentrate and worse i cant even talk. I just lost myself there. Anyways i will try to learn about cognitive therapy just like you said.

Thank you Shnookie!

[Shnookie in reply to Hidden]

of course but just remember that R here 4 U and everything is confidential. I understand your fear but remember U need to take care of yourself. Hugs M

[Hidden]

Sorry ur friends are not helping u. I have seen that people have responded and I am sure u will take into consideration their advices. I wanted to talk about ur friends. Please do not be mad at them, they are totally clueless about this demon. Here at home no one knows I am suffering from this demon and I hide it from many bcz I have realized that when a person doesn't suffer from it, they don't understand it. It is not their fault. Depression is like an invisible demon which can only be understood by those who suffer from it, so don't be mad at them. What I would suggest is, if u feel enxiety is attacking u, post to us, anyone who sees will help u out, this is why we are here, a family, a community, remember that

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Yeah i feel bad for being mad at them. Of course they wouldnt understand the feeling of anxiety. But at least i want them to not laugh at me because i have anxiety and i cant control it.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Yah I get u it must be hurting not to be able to confide in ur friend bcz if they laf, they are preventing u from doing exactly that. Sorry tho, just post to us and we will be therr

[Espejo1024]

It sounds like you need new friends, ones that care and understand what you are dealing with. Anxiety is a real sickness and doctors and counselors can help you, you shouldn't go through it on your own. This "new covid world" we are currently in is causing an explosion of anxiety and major depression. As human beings we NEED human relationships and being stuck at homes, separated from other is not healthy for us.

Where do you live? I live in Ohio, USA.

Are you close to other sibs or your parents? Are counselors or therapists an options to help you work through this difficult time?

I'll send you a private message with a couple things that might help you too.

Uplifting music can help you deal with your anxiety and emotions too. Can you make a playlist of some of your favorites and play it whenever you are particularly anxious? Music is a real gift from God to us! I'll be praying for you and I'll send you a PM later today.

Patti

[SuZQ154]

Soo sorry you are going through this. Anixety is so hard to deal with. People have a hard time understanding that we do not choose to have anxiety.

Books have helped me to understand anxiety better. You might want to check this one out. bit.ly/37nO30K The book "Anxiety Cure" helped me to understand myself better and to help others understand me, too. Hope this helps you!! Hang in there, my friend!!