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I am a 57 yr old mom of two adult children. I suffer from a mood disorder, depression, panic attacks, anxiety and PTSD. I just recently lost my husband of 32 years. He was a very busy alcoholic-totally functioning one. He had some years of sobriety thrown in there and that always kept me holding on to hope for him. It was a difficult marriage many times but I also loved him deeply. Grief is everchanging for me with my feelings all over the place. The loss has only compounded my depression and panic. Some days I can't even leave my house. I'm hoping by getting to know you all and by continuing to tell my story, that I find healing and purpose and prepare myself to get back into employment. Thank you for reading.

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hungryorca98

i soorry for your lose and i hope you get better when i get anxous or sad i breath in counting to 5 then exhale and spelling relax 10 times it helps me maybe you too and i am sorry for your lose

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FriendlyDude

Welcome :) I’m glad you’re here, and I’m sorry for your loss. I believe that he lives on, and he wants you to be happy :) can you try to do that for him? It doesn’t need to be all at once of course, take your time.

I hope you find what you’re looking for here :) we’re always here for you. I wish you the best!

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ThePurpleTulip

Hello lindamine, Welcome ! I'm truly sorry to hear about your loss. We are here for you, and we hope to support you in your journey to finding healing and purpose. Blessings.

Welcome to the group. You are most deffinately in the right place here. We will be ways available to support you. I am sorry to hear about your loss. I hope coming here will help you as much as it has helped most of us. Welcome to the group again.

So sorry to hear of your mental health issues and the loss your husband. It is good that you are reaching out for support for all this. I have had the very same mental health issues over the years, and have lost loved ones as well. For my mental health issues, I found counseling and medications to be helpful when I needed them, but presently I am doing much better with much inner healing. It can be a lonely road, as so many people don't talk about these things in everyday conversations and have not experienced them, but it will helpful for you to find support here or with other caring people. A good website that you may find helpful and give you some help and hope is list.ly/list/1CE4-battling-...

I have also found journaling and prayer to be very helpful, to help you see where you were and how you are progressing. You are going through a lot, and with my own experience with depression and PTSD, I can say there is hope for your healing. As for your grief in losing your husband, the same is true, but you will need time to heal from the loss of your husband after being married so long. My father took his life when I was young and I never got to know him, and my stepfather was a violent alcoholic, so these things all contributed to my issues, and because of what I went through, I can say I survived 100 percent of my worst days, which gives me much hope for the future. I feel your pain, and I know others do as well. You are never truly alone.

Hello. Thanks for sharing. I am also sorry for your loss. Welcome🙂

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RoseyViolet

I'm so sorry for your loss. No matter the circumstances surrounding losing someone close, it still stings and we all grieve in different ways and timing. Deep breath... Do you live in an area where you could look around for an in-person grief support group? Those are helpful. Additionally, when I lost my sister after her long battle with cancer, I found help in being able to have a place where I felt was an outlet for my thoughts and feelings by journaling. It sounds simple, but some days you just want to reach out to them and get things off your chest. I pray you'll find comfort and relief in the days to come.

I’m glad you joined this site. I find it’s good for me to put my issues here for help. No judgment, just a helpful group of nice supportive people. I wish you the best and hope your healing process is helped by this group

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