So Tired

I’m so tired of feeling down, anxious, and hopeless on almost a daily basis. It’s hard to make myself just get up and get out of bed most days. I started a new job in October and I like it. It can be overwhelming at times, but I like it better than my previous job. I’m just always feeling like there is nothing to look forward to. Nothing makes me happy. My husband talked me into getting a bike as he is into biking at the moment. I’ve used it a few times but it’s not that interesting to me. He says he wants me to be healthy so he wants me to get out and ride, but he doesn’t get that it’s a struggle to just get out of bed let alone be motivated to go ride a bike. He thinks I can just make myself get out of bed and be up doing things but I just can’t. I know he gets very frustrated with me because I can’t be the way he wants me to be.

[needhelp2z]

I feel for you. I can hardly eat any longer. I am trying to find things to do during the day that disrupt my bad feelings. I'm happy that you have a new job to keep you occupied. I gave up my job due to anxiety and it has been torture to go through every day without purpose. Many blessings to you and hope you will feel better soon.

[MMoth]

I understand your plight, for mine has often been the same. It has taken many years, but my husband has finally learned that he can’t fix me. He can’t make it all better. He can’t motivate me no matter how much cheerleading he might try. He can’t rush me or wish away the depression and anxiety. I need him to love me, snuggle with me, talk with me, and reassure me that this time will pass ... until next time.

This illness is a cycle, but I can say that meds do make a huge difference for me. I can tell when it is time to increase my dosage, and my doctor is very supportive.

Are you taking any meds? It could be time to increase your dose.

[Denise_Barnheart]

I understand. I am so tired of being depressed and anxious. All I want to do is lay in bed and binge watch TV. And, on the anxiety part I am so tired of going to work and putting on a smile. My biggest achievement today was going to work. Which was a huge argument in my head. (One side of me wants to go to work so I can pay my bills and actually own my car one day. The other side of me says that the anxiety I go through just to make myself work is too much.) I hate my job of all of 6 months. I already missed 4 days, and if I miss another day I will be fired. It took all of my energy just going to work today. I wanted to be a no call, no show just to get fired.

[pam4him]

So sorry you are struggling. It is true though, that if you can make yourself do a little more each day, it gets easier. I encourage you to set small goals then up them as you meet them. It can start as easy as getting out of bed and getting dressed by a certain time. Then work up to maybe some yoga to stretch before riding. Next try riding around the block, then add a mile or two, etc. If biking is not for you perhaps a different exercise. Diet was important for me, lots of water, fresh foods, less fried, fast food and fat saturated items. Last, consider keeping a goal journal. Write your goal and a deadline to meet it. Then report to yourself how you did. Forgive yourself if you don't quite make it, then try again. You CAN do it! Prayers for peace, health and strength.

[sunandbutterfly]

So sorry to hear of the struggle that you are feeling. Have you seen your doctor or PCP about the change that you have seen since October?I am so glad that you have a new job that you are liking better than the old one. Is there anything in particular that makes it more enjoyable?

Sorry that you feel like you are letting down your husband. Perhaps he just knows that exercise can be helpful?health.harvard.edu/mind-and...

If you don't feel up to riding a bicycle is there another form of physical activity that you would enjoy?