I'm sad. I feel like crying all the time. I live very far away from my family and I feel lonesome.
Everybody, family and friends, are planning their Christmas celebration. It seems they don't have time to communicate with me. It's just my husband and me here, no celebration.
My bad health doesn't allow me to make plans. I keep remembering back in the good old days Christmas with my parents and then I start crying.
It's soooo sad. 😪😤😢😭😩🥺
I apologize. Just venting.
Merry Christmas to everybody. 🎄Try to enjoy yourselves. 💕I know I will not.
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I'm sorry you are feeling so lonely and removed from your family's plans. This is going to be a tough Christmas for many people for this very reason. Can you arrange a time to message or video chat with them on Christmas eve/day? Do they know you are missing them all so greatly or have you tried to keep that to yourself?
My family and I live in different countries. That makes things more difficult.
My husband and I usually travel to be with them at this time of the year but because of the pandemic we decided not to even though the flights have already restarted. We don't want to take risks.
I'm sure I'll talk to them on Christmas Day but it's not the same.
Yes, I get what you are saying about it not being the same since you won't be together. Maybe you can start planning/schedule your next trip for spring or summer so you will have something to look forward to!
It is scary and uncertain for sure, but living life on hold indefinitely is not healthy for any of us. So at some point we have to decide what we need to do for our own well being. Is there something that would help you to feel more connected to your family that you could be doing or working on until you are able to travel to them?
I get in touch with them on the phone but it doesn't help much. It actually makes me sad.
For example, they sent me photos today, they were having lunch together, just my two sisters, my nephew and his wife and one of my cousins.. I felt like crying because I wanted to be there!!
Yes I can understand how that adds to the feeling of missing those relationships. I attended a virtual birthday party today for my brother's son who was turning 2. So even though it was not safe to have a party and gather people together, we still got to see him blow out the candles on his cake and enjoy it. And of course it would have been much more fun to be there, but at least they made the effort to include everyone in some kind of celebration. I saw a message someone had posted on social media yesterday that said "Don't wait for things to get better. Life will always be complicated. Choose joy right now. Otherwise you'll run out of time." It made me think about how I need to adjust my attitude when I am sad about all the things we are not currently getting to do. Maybe that's helpful for you too
I understand your point about the reality that circumstances are not equal in every life. I think the thing that stood out to me about the "choose joy" part of that quote was the fact that no matter what anyone's life circumstances are, each person still gets to choose how they will respond. Even in the most challenging or horrible life circumstances, it is still a personal choice of whether to dwell on the negative and our unhappiness or to choose not to dwell on that but to look for the things that do bring joy or the things that you could still be grateful for in the moment. IDK, does that make sense?
Yes, of course, people cannot just choose joy when dealing with clinical depression. The depression is that overbearing feeling which doesn't allow room for anything else to come in and displace it. Which is why medication is helpful to alleviate some of this to be able to catch those good times every now and then and help them to become possible more frequently.
This has been a rough year and because we're all worried we are going to get sick, we all walk around with masks on, avoiding each other. It's crazy and it's not normal at all. The isolation is difficult. Can you try to go on Zoom and come up with a family zoom get together???? I myself am confused about how Zoom works but I might go on the website and try to do this. I have a friend who does zoom with some of her friends. We have a vaccine starting to come out and I believe in a few months once more people get vaccinated things will slowly change for the better. Hold on and stay strong.
Let's hope the vaccine works. So many things have been said against it that we no longer know what to believe.
I plan to wait to see the first results. I'm not afraid of dying ... it's the way one dies from this terrible virus.
Merry Christmas. 🌲🌲
Hi there Micafe!Yeah, I see it too. Everybody around me making plans. Meanwhile here my husband and I are, stuck here by when we should be iwith family in the States by now. My county just sent out a reminder text stating that up to 10 people are allowed to get together in private homes. This saddened me because this implies family members and we don't have family here.
My family and I use something called Messenger. It's similar to Skype and Zoom. We will see them virtually on Christmas, which we are really looking forward to!
I use Messenger with friends and family and I also try to get in touch with them on WhatsApp. The problem is, not everybody is using those now. Everyday I get fewer and fewer calls and messages. They are making plans for Christmas and New Year and I feel forgotten. I do understand, though. I'm very far away.
There is a colloquial word in Spanish "morriña", borrowed from the Galician morrinha, that means sadness or melancholy, especially nostalgia for the homeland.
That's exactly what I am feeling now and I'm afraid it's going to get worse.
I understand how difficult it is to live with pain. It's a nightmare.
My condolences for the passing of your best friend. I know the feeling.
Merry Christmas to you too. 🌲🌲🎅
You aren’t alone @micafe! I also will be alone this Christmas. No celebration. No family. Your Christmas memories with your parents sound very dear to your heart.
I know it’s hard. But I’m here with you. Thank you for venting to us
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So sad today. Sending you all love.
Why is it so hard not to be sad?
So sad today , 
