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First post - so sad and lonely and empty

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Hi everyone,

This is my first post here so hopefully I get it right. I’ve been reading some of the posts here and I totally relate. My life is so empty. I am so sad and lonely and empty all the time. I have no one. I’m stuck, and for many reasons can’t seem to do anything about it. Thanks for reading/listening

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Hello, sorry to hear you are feeling this way. I too am extremely lonely and, in my particular case, isolated living so remotely in the country. I always try to put a very brave face on things but especially at this time of year getting so close to Christmas I tend to feel it the most as so much emphasis is grilled into you by TV and radio that this is such a special time for families and loved ones, I have no living family left and lost my wife to cancer in 2016 and my mum died in 2017 so it left me with no one. I have my 2 dogs to keep me company, but physical contact is virtually impossible where I live and as I hardly get out of my bungalow to talk to anyone, it kind of makes things so much worse. Most people on here will tell you my posts always cheer people up and I am always making posts to cheer people up from the usual misery, no pun intended. We all need to vent our problems, I try to especially, but it is often hard to be a set example all the time. People often tell me not to be so hard on myself, but when you have no one to opinionate yourself against the obvious solution is you pick holes in yourself. Well, I do anyhow. I just wanted to say hello and assure you, you are so not alone in feeling this way. I wish I could wave a magic wand and assure you it will get better, but you have to be real as we do not live in a peter pan world, I'm afraid. Thank you for reaching out to the community, though. I am sure you will find people to reach out to who will give you better advice than me.. please feel free to reply back an elaborate more if you choose to do so. good luck x👍

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Thanks for sharing some of your story. It’s makes me sad that so many of us struggle to find our way in this world. I am sorry for your situation, it sounds very difficult and challenging. Thank you for reaching out to me. I appreciate it more than you know

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Hb2003

Welcome to this kind and supportive community I am so sorry that your feeling this way I understand how it feels to be empty and lonely . we all think of each other as family - Hiba

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Evening Hb and Agora1, hope you're both well.......😀👍👍 it's after 4am here in the UK so need some sleep.....night guys x

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Naterbear in reply to Hb2003

Thanks so much for the warm welcome. This seems like a warm, safe group

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Hb2003 in reply to Naterbear

Your welcome 🙏 😁I’m so glad that you think that

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Agora1

Welcome Naterbear....you no longer need to be alone. You took your first stepforward in becoming a part of our virtual family of friends. We support each other

because we understand and we care. I'm glad you are here with us :) xx

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Naterbear in reply to Agora1

Thanks Agora1. It’s been difficult to reach out to anyone especially since I know most people just don’t get it, but it seems so different here. I appreciate your warm welcome

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Agora1 in reply to Naterbear

Naterbear, it's one of the few places you will find where people reallyunderstand and most of all care about you. It's going to be okay :) xx

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Sabbath1

You're not alone, there's lots of support here . Everybody is kind . Its pretty great that way.

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Naterbear in reply to Sabbath1

Thank you. I can already feel this difference with this group of people

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Nina2016

I agree with everyone posting you aren’t alone anymore because u joined this forum! Believe it or not it is truly a community! I’ve been on here for about a month or so and I keep coming back because you can get support, love, a joke or just say hello. And unlike some other forums (insta and FB) these are personal interactions not just posts of bragging stuff or political views etc. I really like it here - I hope you will too!!🍁🍂

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Naterbear in reply to Nina2016

Hi Nina2016, I really appreciate your comments. You seem to put everything in words in a perfect way. Your description of this community sounds so welcoming. I’m looking forward to spending more time here. Thanks

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KJnOTT

I am so glad you reached out for support and am so sorry you are struggling. Know that there are many resources out there to support you. I also think that getting some professional support may be a good idea. I am not allowed to post some recommended resources directly on the post, but if you wish to reach out to me I would be happy to share a contact for a free phone consultation with a licensed counselor. Hang in there my friend!

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Naterbear in reply to KJnOTT

Hi KJnOTT, thanks for your comments. I have tried professional help before but they just don’t seem to understand the depth of my situation. Their solutions all seem so shallow and surface, if you know what I mean. I’m looking forward to this community though.

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ZOO7

Hi! I was so glad I found this community a few weeks ago. I come on here often. Posing my own questions but also respond to people if I can help. We are all in the same or similar boat. I just signed up for a yoga class with vaccine check. It was my first time in over a year stepping outside alone. I was so nervous but it was so nice. I wasn’t good at the class at all but it felt good to move and stretch. I do hope you can find something to connect. I’m here. I’m checking often. Feel free to chat. Take a deep breath. You are loved.

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Naterbear in reply to ZOO7

Hi! Thanks for reaching out. It sounds like you’re making some great positive moves. That’s the kind of inspiration that I hope to get from this community

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ray0

I totally relate. No family, friends or job. Feeling so empty, I'm stuck in this swamp.

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Naterbear in reply to ray0

Hi ray0, I am in the exact same place as you. Hopefully we can find some comfort here. The worst part is feeling so alone, like no one cares at all

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ray0 in reply to Naterbear

I really hope so. I reach rock bottom now. I have no one to talk to or vent.

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Naterbear in reply to ray0

I hope so too.

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Kainan

Glad you joined. That feeling certainly finds its way around. But you're in a supportive place. I hope you reach out and find support :)

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Naterbear in reply to Kainan

Hi Kainan_li. It really seems like a kind and supportive place. I’m glad I found it. Thanks for your response

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