Friend fallout

[Mcai]

Has anyone ever had a huge fallout with a best friend that was like family to you. I’m talking about someone who was there for everything and you were just so attached to. I’ve noticed my depression has gotten so out of control from this, and I don’t understand why so bad. I would like to feel like I’m not alone, like someone understands me.

[Hidden]

I went through this and it really hurts. It was my childhood best friend. Do you mind me asking what caused the drift? Or how it started?

[Mcai in reply to Hidden]

How did you get over it I’m really struggling

[Hidden in reply to Mcai]

Well, I’m not sure about you but for me it’s extremely difficult to make new friends so when I’m best friends with someone, I to, get very attached.

Before I left out of state to nursing school this best friend of mine since the second grade (we’re now 25) said we’re like family and that she’d always be there for me but then slowly stopped answering my texts, fell through with call backs, and was just very flaky. I knew no matter what I did I couldn’t save the friendship, but see the reason it was easier to let it go was because I knew I gave 110%. And although we had been best friends for so long and I knew everything about her, I knew staying her best friend would only lead to resentment because she wasn’t there for me at all and would only talk about her issues with her baby’s father. A life without her seemed dull, but then I remember a life with her would be hurtful because of the way she was throwing me to the side. It’s not her fault, people change and their priorities change. I think the best way to deal with it is to put energy in to things that give back to you, because if you aren’t getting what you deserved it will only hurt more. 😞 I’m so sorry to say. This is just my perspective of my situation yours could be very different.

[Mcai in reply to Hidden]

Would you pm me, I think that’s what it’s called

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

i have a hard time to make friends also. its really stressful sometimes

[bluepanda126 in reply to Hidden]

pretty closed to my issue with my old best friend, i agree sometimes its better to let go

[Kitkat1321]

Yes. My sister in law and I have had our share of arguments, but our latest has led me to decide that I can’t trust her or confide in her ever again. I will be nice and civil for the sake of my family, but no more small talk or friendship type of stuff. Since all of this happened my mental health has declined, but I keep telling myself I’m better off this way so I don’t get burned again.

[Mcai in reply to Kitkat1321]

I just feel like a part of me is missing honestly

[Hidden]

i understand you Mcai . i felt like that before you are not alone.🤗

[Mcai in reply to Hidden]

🤗

[Mcai]

🤗

[bluepanda126]

I'm not sure if I've had the same experience but i had this best friend wo was like my sister i ended up with her brother (that's not important but he does come up, she was ok with it) however i moved in with her brother in a town like 300 miles away and i was always there for her through hard times, but when i had hard time she leave me on read, got to the point of i expressed my feelings and she got so mad she started petty rumors (we are in our 20s we are to old for that petty stuff) even told her parents that I was using my boyfriend. A girl I felt as if family stabbed me in the back... its painful however the point of the story is sometimes its for the better to lose a friend even if it doesn't feel like it..

[Mrspjsmom]

My best friend and I have been friends for 50 years. We have had several huge falling outs and many more small ones. We wait a bit until we both cool down. Then one of us approaches the other and we work things out. Listening to each other. She is family to me. A huge part of my support system. If you are feeling more depressed over this maybe it's worth trying to work things out. Whatever you decide good luck.