Hi, I'm new here. I'm in a very bad situation with a lover I met online. To get to the point, I thought I was in love with him, but now I feel I want to just unplug myself from Discord and pretend I don't exist (becoming a ghost...). Nothing but a memory.
I'm afraid to tell him how I feel when we went too far already. Everything went too fast..
Also, What do you guys think about online relationships..?
don`t recommend them myself but obviously they work for some and not others.maybe take a step back and keep dating over a longer period and get to know each other properly.
Keep dating him?
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Ah, I forgot to mention that I don't know my feelings. When he tells me he loves me I get uncomfortable and don't respond for hours. It's so hard knowing my feelings.. And I'm afraid to hurt him. So I respond to him that I loved him too when I didn't felt that way.. I don't know what to do now.
I probably wouldn't ghost him, as that can cause people really deep pain, but I wonder what's made you feel this way? Is it that you don't have the connection you were hoping for? Whatever it is, it might be good to openly communicate your feelings with him, but it's hard to say, since I can't tell what it is that's caused you to worry.
I just don't know my feelings for him. I feel uncomfortable like I said to @kenster1 a few seconds ago.
And I feel very afraid to tell him.
Have you guys met in person yet? If you haven't, then your feelings might be very warranted. Why would someone say "I love you" when they haven't even met in person yet? That has some red flags you may want to pay attention to. If you feel like he's moving too fast, maybe you could communicate that with him. I know it might be scary, but it will be scary for him too if you bottle it up inside and then reveal it at an awkward time when you can't keep it in any longer.
I have bottled it inside... I'm not sure what time I should tell him. I'm just ignoring him on discord pretending to be offline.. And we have not met in person. He does go on video, but I feel insecure so I don't do video. I always hated being on camera and it's a fear of mine. So, maybe like kenster1 said online relationships might not be for me. And yea, it's SUS.
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I regret dating him. It felt too fast and I feel I was pressured to date him? He kept telling me everyday in long paragraphs how much he loves and cares for me even though we just met again after a year.
Yeah. I'd be careful with this guy. He sounds kind of obsessive and stalkerish.
maybe your right. And how can someone love me that much when they haven't seen me? Or know my life. And in my life I'm dealing with self hate and insecurity. Am I really ready for a relationship,..? Especially online?? 
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I don't know why I date him. Maybe I've been feeling lonely for long. And maybe him saying me all these good loving things drawn me to him. I don't know..
As you could probably tell right now my mental state rn is ass.
My guess is you'll find someone someday. I can't tell you what to do, of course, but I'd be careful with him. He sounds a little obsessive. I'm sure you will be able to find a partner someday, but it should be someone who really does love you, not who seems to be infatuated with you before even really getting to know you.
If I was you I'd stay well away from this guy he sounds like a risky one to me.
That has a lot of red flags you may want to pay great attention to.
Just tell him the truth you think it going to fast and you want and need to slow things down I'm sure you could come up with as to why you need to do this.
Or maybe just take a rest from this site I'm sure there are a lot more men out there that sound better than this one.
Just take a deep breath and do it because deep down you know it makes sense
Yes, BIG red flags!!
Relationships, whether online or in-person, are not forever. They are not immune to time. If at any point one person in the relationship doesn't feel like it is for him/her, then the relationship can, and likely should, end. Like others have said, it's important to have a conversation/dialogue that allows you the opportunity to express how you feel. Will it hurt him, probably. But you have to do what's right for YOU! He'll hurt, but he'll figure out a way forward. I've been the one broken up with far too many times. It hurts like hell, but after a lot of introspection, I learned those relationships were likely not the best for me anyway. You know what would hurt more (and does), knowing that I was in a relationship where my partner didn't love me. That's not what a relationship should ever be.
Maybe practice with someone you trust (friend/family member), what you would say to him.
Thank you all very much for your feedback and I really do appreciate it. I stopped dating him and we are just friends now. It did hurt him, I felt hurt too from that.. but I don't think I can date online. Hidden Yes, you are right. It may as well be for the best.
One word "Honesty" tell him how you feel, if you lie your lying to yourself and another human being. If he's a decent guy he will understand and be patient. If not, well it's better to know now if it's meant to be or not. By the sounds of it he sounds a bit vunerable and hasty too, it NEVER turns out well when you rush into situations especially in relationships.
You just don't know what his intentions are, be very careful honey, for all you know he might be telling you what you want to hear, there's a lot of nutter's out there that have fooled a great many people. He may be absolutely lovely, just be careful.
Stay safe and don't hesitate to ask others for an honest opinion, we're all here for you.
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