Hello everyone. I’d like your thoughts on this. Everyone is always telling me to be kind to myself and don’t let fear seep into your soul and breathe to be calm calm calm.
What about anger?
I have anger at existence.
I have anger at things I cannot change about my mind.
I have anger at my so called “creator”
Sometimes this anger is the only thing that gets anything done around here....when we are in the depths of depression with lack of energy.
Can anger be modified into a somewhat positive thing?
Can anger be a source of strength?
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Here is what my psychiatrist told me once he started pressing on nerves and triggering my anger: it's good because it means you're learning to deal with it. You're healing. You're becoming stronger.
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Thanks hun means a lot!
My position on this is I got angry in my life that helped me turn my positions with certain things in my life, things that kept me bound that eventually turned to calm. I got angry and then I started ‘dealing’ and that led to ‘healing’.
I’m still angry about a few things in my life, that anger does give me energy to fight the next day, I can sulk or fight. I choose the latter. Life stole way too many years of me being locked in my bedroom with depression that I don’t want to return there if I can help it.
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Swords up! The feeling is mutual thank you for perspective🙏
I think anger has its purpose in certain circumstances. The discomfort of anger makes us pay attention to our emotions. It can help us to come to a point of changing what we don't like, like setting needed boundaries, or stopping behavior that just isn't acceptable. But the key for me is to understand what it is that's making me angry, and looking for solutions rather than staying in the problem. Sometimes anger is suppressed fear and anxiety over past mental injury that isn't fully explored and brought to the surface so we can understand and learn to live with it. When we feel taken advantage of, lied to, or slighted cruelly...it leaves us frustrated and angry...so we take action, but hopefully in a constructive way. Internalizing anger causes all kinds of physical and emotional damage like Ulcers, heart disease, anxiety, depression…Anger has it’s place, but to be angry all the time about everything is a red flag.
I know guys are taught differently about showing anger. I've worked with all men for over 30 years, and they are different than us gals about showing emotion usually. Most of my guys I worked with didn't like to show emotions, or admit to even having any about stuff sometimes. It was weak or not being macho enough to be able to cope as they should, guys fix things, they are supposed to be the ones that take care of the problems....and most would kick a door before they would even think about doing any 'touchy feely' ...'lets talk about it and work it out' stuff. I think working through the anger is good, but recognizing what makes us angry is important too.
It's funny because I have always though that anger saved me from depression. But mrmonk couldn't have said it better, if I was still as angry as I used to be it would have been unhealthy, so it serves its purpose in certain moments but it can't become our permanent state.
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