It's been a hard week

[rafaelagracer]

it's been a hectic week and I just feel alone and like no one understands and my girlfriend tries to understand but we just end up fighting when I try to communicate my feelings, why is it so hard..

[Craftnquilt]

Because feelings are confusing. Especially in a relationship. I am there too. My husband and I fight constantly when I need him most. I hope things get better soon.

[GymNeed]

I believe we understand. Well at least I do. I don't have any friends and my husband is a loner (so my needs are not important) So I am alone most of the time and I am not a loner so it is depression well sad. I used to have my grand kids to come by but since Corona they have not been over. I thought my husband was going to be my friend but he is not. It's horrible to be married and can't talk to husband about the weather.

[BeachSeaSky]

Yeah , sometimes its hard to communicate your feelings to another person,my parter and I used to write our feeling down on a piece of paper for the other person to read so , so the conversation would not get to heated , it helped x

[Alladin]

I am sorry for what you are going through. This is hard because humans are made for relationships, for community. I do agree that communication can be hard, and it varies with who we are talking to, much like dancing to different tunes. But you can learn by creating some form of an imaginary staircase, the lowest being nothing to say, not even looking at the person. The next one can be a sort of brief shallow talk. Check the reaction. And from there go one step at a time instead of immediately delving into the heavy issues which in my experience creates an outright clash. Try to be positive and humble and focusing on your partner’s feelings instead of yours. Put it off for a while until the person shows concern for your feelings. It is hard in real practice but it can be done.