Hard to care Hard to try

[FauxxTrot]

I'm feeling really down today and don't want to try and don't want to exist.I just need someone to reply

[Sillysausage234]

Hi ,hope more people reply for you soon

[FauxxTrot in reply to Sillysausage234]

Thank you

[FauxxTrot]

Thanks yeah I went for a little walk and have a kitty lounging on the couch. I guess I just feel alone and overwhelmed with sad thoughts

[CaliBoa22 in reply to FauxxTrot]

I have a cat too! I have a calico named Cali n a beautiful grey n white boy named Boa. They aren’t actually registered but I swear they’re basically emotional support animals whenever they sense me sad or upset they are right by my side. Tell me about yours maybe it’ll help get your mind off of things!

[FauxxTrot in reply to CaliBoa22]

I also have a calico her name is Pistol. She's pretty feisty and energetic but when she winds down is a good smuggler too 😊 thanks

[AXXES2]

did something trigger that ?

[FauxxTrot in reply to AXXES2]

It just feels like things are piling up and I'm feeling overwhelmed

[AXXES2 in reply to FauxxTrot]

oh i get it when too many stressful things come up the little things make me feel stressed

[Zhangliqun in reply to FauxxTrot]

Do the little things first. That gets them out of the way and gives you a feeling of accomplishment and generates momentum and then makes it easier to focus on and knock out the bigger things.

[Livingfree23]

I feel for you, not having a great week as well, don’t stop trying, it always gets better, found that out many times.

[St1nk3rb311]

The way your feeling will pass, do you have any distraction techniques that you can use x

[FauxxTrot in reply to St1nk3rb311]

I usually go for a walk in the woods. It helps thank you

[sjhtr88P]

Hi Fauxx Trot, I feel like you are feeling a lot. I try to understand why I feel this way so often but have no answers. I have found that since making a pact with myself to try & do one thing a day Might be as simple (to some) as doing the dishes & cleaning out a kitchen cupboard. This seems to stop me thinking about the loneliness & I feel a bit better about myself to have actually achieved something. So everyday I fulfill some menial task if I can't manage more & know that this will end one day. Believe in yourself. You can do it. It is so hard to lift your mood when you don't want to. I hate doing housework with a passion but I get it done. Probably not well but I have attempted something. Hang in there. I know it is a hard road.

[FauxxTrot in reply to sjhtr88P]

It's funny that you say that. Last week I came to the same conclusion that I need to get 1 thing done everyday even if it's something tiny. I love cooking and hate dishes but I can't cook if I don't have clean dishes so I've started 10 min of dishes every day. Thank you for the reminder it does help me feel less like a pos

[Babe1213]

Hi FauxxTrot, It saddens me to know that you are feeling down today - I did see your post yesterday, but with a severely disabled husband to tend to I didn't have time to respond until now. You haven't given any reason why you are feeling so down, only that you don't want to exist or even try. Of course there is no reason why you should give this information, this is your own personal business and therefore your choice. However it may be helpful to some of us on H U if we had an inkling, the reason for this is that one or more of us, may be in similar circumstances, or have had similar experiences to that which you are going through, and we may well be able to share how we have overcome. Perhaps you may give this some thought, none of us judge each other, we are all here to help each other through the tough times.

You say, 'You don't want to try', an yet you are trying, just by posting asking for a reply is in its own way 'you trying.' So well done. So far you have had 7 replies from others, plus my reply. We are all rooting for you, and all hoping the words of encouragement from us may give you hope.

All of us have down days, days of feeling we are insignificant, days of self loathing, days of pain. What I am trying to say, is we are all in this together. We are all human beings, with feelings.

It sounds to me like you may be in need of some tender loving care and maybe you need to feel valued. It is also maybe that you need to actually talk with someone about your feelings, may I suggest you visit an Episcopalian church minister who will help just by listening, giving advice or suggestions, and Anglican priest is bound by confidentiality and will not judge.

Being human beings, we have a habit when we are heavily laden of burying our troubles inside our hearts, then building a brick wall round them, not only does this stop more hurt getting in, its stops the inner hurt getting out. Do take some 'ME TIME' just for you. Maybe a walk in the park, or something else you enjoy. Play some music, phone a friend. Perhaps go to the gym or do some exercise and get the 'feel good endorphins' moving.

Please do also keep the communication lines open. We all want to help.

[FauxxTrot in reply to Babe1213]

Thank you for the kind words. Yeah I used to be pretty active in this group and it was the only thing I could think of. I'm feeling this way because I'm overwhelmed and uncomfortable. My home lost it's heating and septic this winter and I just got laid off at work for slow season. I'm feeling sick and it's just hard to take care of myself and handle it all.

I get overwhelmed often and that's what makes me feel like I can't move or think

[dianaluz45781073]

eel calm and supported by your friends, you are not the only person who goes through this, have patience and trust in the processes, put an attitude towards life, which is beautiful. A hug.

[Tara52]

So sorry you are feeling so bad. I have felt like this alot. I noticed on your profile you suffer with PTSD. Do you have a good trauma therapist? I am sending you a hug.💗

[FauxxTrot in reply to Tara52]

I can't afford therapy but I try to do CBT work on my own. When I feel overwhelmed I forget my tools and it's hard.Thanks for hugs

[catsrock]

I'm sorry you've having such a hard time. Big hugs!

[Pitalife]

I'm was having a Dat like that,but I'm sole caregiver after my elderly mom,my brother killed himself so it's just me..it's very hard when depression strikes hard...Don't watch TV one suggestion I can give everyone....it starts day off negativity way they want it...

[Challico]

That is a really uncomfortable place to be in right now. I totally get it. I wish I could help take that pain away. What I do for those moments is try to get out of my head. Cause most times I am worried about the past events/trauma's etc... so I take a deep breath and look around to see what I can see in this moment, what does the air feel like or my clothes feel like on my skin, what do I smell in this moment. I try to be in this moment right now. And write a gratitude list. What are five things you are grateful for? I hope you feel better soon.

[FauxxTrot in reply to Challico]

Thank you, a gratitude list is a good idea

[TangledUpIn]

Hi FauxxTrot,I wanted to reply so you know I am here for you.

[RareCandy123]

just wanted to say I hope today was at least a slightly better day. You’re not alone!

[FauxxTrot in reply to RareCandy123]

Thank you, I think today will be a bit better

[Josana13]

Been there, done that. What helped me tremendously was watching Joyce Meyer on TV or You Tube. If you decide to do this, please let me know how it goes. Hang in there, we are all in the same boat and we love you.