Why do we all place so much importance on having friends and significant others??????

I will admit, I wish I had more friends and I wish I was in a good relationship. The key word there being good, not bad or mediocre. But there are so many people out there who are in relationships that make them miserable. And have friends that they get annoyed by and aggravated with. I think Facebook makes a joke out of the word friend. I'm living with my parents these days that quite frankly, I think they should really be divorced. I split up with someone I was with for 20 years, and I think my parents bickering and arguing gets way nastier and uglier than my ex partner and me. The main reason my mom stays with my dad is because he was a good provider. A good provider with a nasty attitude who makes rude and terrible remarks. And my mom isn't much better, she enables him and acts very childish sometimes herself. I am praying I can figure out some way to support myself and get off of barely surviving on disability because it is so toxic living here, I know if I were to move to a group home that wouldn't be a good living situation either. My ex partner is a good man, but he's surviving on disability too and he's not good with money or I'd probably still be with him. I felt like I had to try to save myself. I'm 50 years old and maybe this sounds really immature but I'd like to have some kind of career having to do with music, I'd love to be a professional songwriter and write songs for some prominent singers and bands. Some years ago I was involved in a creative writing group where I wrote all these poems and I tried to write a couple songs and I felt so inspired being around fellow creative people and I really need something like that now. I have got to make up my mind to take music lessons on the guitar and piano again, it doesn't matter anymore if I'm around a bunch of young kids doing that. If you don't follow your dreams, you die. And I will be okay not having any fake friends or being in a relationship with someone like my dad who constantly takes and hardly ever gives. I know I could have written this in a diary and not for the world to see but I just felt like posting this on here. If youre true to yourself you can't go wrong. Dare to be you !!!!!!!☺

[Lazy_dog_lover]

Thank you for the post. I went through a phase in college, a long time ago, where I said, "better him than no one" and then 18 months later, I flipped to, "Better no one than him". People stay in relationships for many different reasons. I think a lot is the comfort of familiarity...even if it is filled with bickering and bitterness.

Personally, I prefer fewer, better friends than a ton of half-hearted ones. I also think an intimate relationship should come after a friendship.

If you are 50, your parents are ~70's? In that generation, it was perfectly normal to stay in a marriage, even if they make each other nutty. My parents are 76. At around 60, I could tell dad was starting to mellow and mom started not being so passive. Changes in personalities, I don't think, happen often.

There are lots of places to publish poetry. You can even self publish and just put it on the market. I don't have a musical bone in my body, so I have no idea how to break into the song market. I watched a documentary on Garth Brooks and he has worked with the same song writers for decades. Now, can a published poem also become a song? That is a good question. The good thing is that writing is free. Do it as much as you can. Story-telling, silly, loving, heartbreaking, relationships, inspirational...whatever. Best of luck.

[Hidden in reply to Lazy_dog_lover]

Yes, my parents are in their late 70s, my dad is about to turn 80. When I was 16 and again when I was 35 my mom seriously threatened divorce but she never went through with it. I'm tired of my parents treating me like they have to control me because I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder when I was 16. I used to have my own apartment and car. I really want to get off of disability because for me it's just been a ticket to poverty and getting treated like crap by people who work. I don't know if I will ever get off of it but I HAVE to try!!!! I'm tired of relying on food stamps and going to food banks. You'd think my parents would try to support me undertaking this but no!!!! They'd rather label me bipolar and crazy and put me on a shelf. A big reason I got labeled bipolar is because I tried to make a couple attempts at running away from home when I was 16. I've seriously considered trying to see if a battered women's shelter could help me get situated in a better situation, but they'd probably place me in a group home. And that is being around some people who have way worse emotional problems than me. I also tried going on roomates.com for a few months, didn't get anywhere, even though I have income most people don't want you living with them unless you have a car and a job. Please pray for me, and thank you for being so nice to me.💖

[shawshankredemention in reply to Hidden]

I will definitely pray for you. You sound like a very kind soul. You will find peace

[Starrlight]

❤️

[Hidden in reply to Starrlight]

Thanks Starrlight!!!💖

[Starrlight in reply to Hidden]

((((((((Hug))))))) any time, beautiful!