I’m 54 years old. I’ve never married. With my anxiety and OCD, I don’t trust many people. Because of that, I rarely ever met a woman I could trust enough to marry.
A few years ago, I found one (or so I thought). We haven’t married yet but have been living together for over 4 years.
She just told me that she cheated on me last year. Twice!!!!!
I’m spiraling downward, not knowing what to do.
Who wants to get married anyways. It looks like hell to me.
I would think that if she cheated on you last year, she will do it again. This doesn't sound like someone you can trust. I know it is quite difficult for someone with mental health issues, but unfortunately, we still face the same problems as others.
I agree with you. She also suffers from mental illness. Not that that’s an excuse
It is unfortunate, but since you have problems trusting people in the first place, this must be quite bad for you. I don't think you can trust this person in the future.
I'm really sorry. That sounds like a huge breach of trust. From your other replies it sounds like you are thinking of breaking up. Obviously you have every right, but would it be more distressing to you in the long run than trying to patch things up? I believe that humans are weak and fidelity is hard, so sometimes forgiveness isn't the worst idea.
I also wonder why she confessed to you--was she hoping for forgiveness and is she trying to be good to you? Or did you catch her? Or was she trying to hurt you?
Relationships really suck sometimes. Best wishes to you.
Hi Purrsona. I don’t know if I. An be the same person since I found out. It would be catastrophic, possibly life ending, if I break it up. But I don’t want to stay in this just because of the severe depression I’ll go through.
She told me. She’s been trying to be a better person and she felt she needed to get it out. She has mental issues as well.
That sounds very complicated. Maybe you could take things slowly to let yourself get over the initial shock. If breaking up would be life-ending, I'm inclined to think you really shouldn't do it. Is couples counseling an option for you?
Seems like it’s time to hVe a big talk.
I wonder why she decided to tell you if you didn't find out? I'm assuming as she's still living with you her encounters weren't serious...I'm not surprised you find it hard to trust. I do too. Good luck.
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