Don't want to waste life

[Belaire]

Question, if you been with a guy for 7 years, four kids, is it wrong to want to get married?

[DeanSamson]

I don't think it's wrong at all.

[Belaire in reply to DeanSamson]

Thank you, to me i think its time...

[DeanSamson in reply to Belaire]

Good luck

[tamka38]

I don’t think is wrong, the question is do u love this guy? Do u have kids by him? U really not giving a lot to go off on?

[Belaire in reply to tamka38]

Yes love him to death, been together for 7 yrs, stay together for 6, has 4 kids together

[tamka38 in reply to Belaire]

Do he want to get married?

[Belaire in reply to tamka38]

He talks about it but to me talk is cheap..U have to make actions. I feel like that movie...Five year engagement

[tamka38 in reply to Belaire]

Do You Really Need Marriage for a Happily Ever After? I mean y’all been together this long and if u wanted he had enough time to do it.

[Agora1 in reply to tamka38]

I agree with you tamka. A marriage certificate isn't a guarantee

of the fairy tale life. If you love and respect each other and he

takes care of you and the children then that may need to be enough

at this time. Pushing him into a legal agreement may just end up

pushing him away in the long run. Some men are afraid of that

final commitment, it doesn't mean he loves you less.

Oops, I got carried away But you know what I mean tamka xx

[tamka38 in reply to Agora1]

I agree with Agora1

[tamka38 in reply to Belaire]

Do you feel your relationship is what you want the way it is ? Can you live without marriage and even more important is your relationship really strong and do you know you want it or are you staying and still hoping for marriage? Only you know the real truth of your heart. Good luck and be strong and true to yourself.

[tamka38 in reply to Belaire]

I was with my boyfriend on and off for 17 years and he ask me a couple of years ago would I merry him and I said no because it takes 2 years to really get to know someone and see where is heading and if it takes u 13 years to finally figure out now u want to merry me makes me think I wasn’t never good enough for u so my question to myself was do I deserve this? Do I really love him? And can I live without him? Is a lot to think about.

[faulhallen]

I think the only reason it would be wrong to want to get married would be if you’re only staying for the wrong reasons. Like because you have kids and it’s safe but aren’t truly happy.

As long as you’re happy then certainly not.

[tamka38]

Love doesn't mean anything if you're not willing to make a commitment, and you have to think not only about what you want, but about what he wants.

Not just now, but in the future. Am here for u always and you’re never alone and at the end of the day is your decision and your life.

[Belaire]

Thank u

[kenster1]

both need to want the same thing mind you.ive been with my partner 8 years and have 2 kids both are happy as it is without being married.we have spoke about it mind you but she will always be my mrs and mum to our kids.the whole being married thing adds pressure to many relationships but I suppose it just depends on the couple I suppose.

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No it's not wrong. Do you live together? I'm just wondering as your partner may already class you as married. Talk to him about getting married and has he concerns? And talk those concerns through