Hello I'm new here

[lonelygirl28]

Hello, I'm new here. I may have already posted more than I should have in my profile. If you decide to read it and can relate in any way, let me know.

[kenster1]

hi welcome aboard and sorry for all the unfortunate experiences you have went through.you can always adjust your profile if it makes you feel more comfortable and add more in the future.as for your dad its tough but circumstances might have changed in his life as well although its no excuse for not being around.we have a forum called bereavement care and share as well if you feel that you need some support in regards to your dear mum.its hard for me to say but try and focus on your current life and not drawn to the past even if its about your dad.

[lonelygirl28 in reply to kenster1]

Thank you and Love the feedback. I actually just started meditating Recently, only a couple times a week (getting more consistent) to help with being more in the moment. A lot of times I find myself planning forward or dwelling on the past.

[Hidden]

I'm sorry you are hurting, you seem like a wonderful woman despite the terrible circumstances. If I was you I'd be careful of someone who so easily walked out and wanted nothing to do with you for almost 30yrs. But at the same time he is 1/2 the reason you even exist. So maybe it took a while but he finally realized what a scumbag he is and wants to try and fix it now. From this point on if you ever need a friend to vent to when you feel overwhelmed, message me I'm here. Sending you irie vibrations, one love.

[lonelygirl28 in reply to Hidden]

Oh trust me, that thought has crossed my mind many times. -now that I’ve built a home, have a great career and have my life together-now you want to know me..? But he is getting older and he is biologically my dad..would I regret it if I didn’t try(for a 4th time) ? 😒

[Hidden in reply to lonelygirl28]

I can't tell you whether you'll regret not trying to let your father in your life, or if you'll regret it if you do let him in. But if this is the 4th time he's trying to come into your life, it doesn't seem like he really cares. Seems he only wants you when its convenient for him.

[WiltedFlower]

hi and welcome, i read through your profile. I don't think you shared too much. don't worry about it. I can relate to you about being on the edge. Like, you're doing so well in life physically, but emotionally you're one fallen domino from a completed chain reaction. I get it, and its very difficult, and ik where you're coming from, so i've got your back. message me for support if you ever feel like it

[lonelygirl28 in reply to WiltedFlower]

What do you do when you’re starting to feel that way again and you can feel the sadness getting worse?

[WiltedFlower in reply to lonelygirl28]

honestly, idk. I'm still trying to figure that out. I use positive self talk, y'know, reasons that I shouldn't fall off the edge. But for you, maybe distractions will work, or just setting your mind on reset and going back and doing things you'd have done before you felt like this.

[lonelygirl28 in reply to WiltedFlower]

Yeah, I do that now. Focus on hobbies.

[pink318]

Hi- I’m sorry to hear about your struggles and thank you for sharing.

Welcome to the group! I hope you will be encouraged as you stay here. You are not alone, we are here for each other.

I pray that things will go well in your family. Keep us posted.

[lonelygirl28]

Thank you for the note