Falling apart

[Davidlosingit]

Okay I was doing really good, because I was getting to know a lady from work. We were chatting on messenger. Things were going great she led me to believe she liked me. Sent romantic pics. Then all of sudden she basically stopped communicating. I was starting to fall for her and now I'm feeling terrible. I can barely get out of bed. Worst thing is I don't know what I did wrong. I feel so hopless. I been alone for so long and I thought this relationship was going somewhere. I felt so bad I skipped a therapist appointment because I just couldn't deal with even talking about it.

[Blackdog1]

I know your feeling crappy now because things didn't work out. But I just want to say, good for you for trying!

I haven't been on a date in ages and am not up for it right now. But I remember having euphoria then heartbreak on more than one occasion when I did date.

It really does take a lot to put yourself out there.

I think of lyrics from a John Hiatt song, "... a bottle of gin and a long bus trip/somebody said you just get over it.."

[Wiganladlovesapie]

Hi. I’m Andy.

I’m so very sorry to read about your story today. It must feel terrible.

Unless she is willing to explain to you what has happened, explain why, then this is something that you may have to put down to experience, sadly.

Maybe useful to remember though that something completely unrelated to you could have happened. Family problems, home life etc... so keep that in mind. It is a possibility.

I do know heartbreak, I do. Horrible! I’m sure many of us here have felt the pain and hurt of loss. So you will need time to work through this.

Also please be kind to yourself. Treat yourself with care.

Rearranging your appointment with your therapist is something to think on. Right now it’s probably more important than ever to go and get help.

Please keep talking here. Keep communicating as much as you possibly can.

Take good care of yourself.

Andy.

[Sprinkle1]

David do not come down on yourself, you have no idea what happened, perhaps she got scared and was afraid to get in any further. I had something happen to me recently, a man in the forum liked my reply to his painful past. He asked me to call him and gave his No. I did, we were getting on quite well, then he said on Sat night, he would call me Sunday, he never called. I called him a day or so later, to ask if I had said something to offend him, would he let me know. He did not call me, so I called again thinking something had happened, I have not heard from him since, but I see he has been back online again, so I wonder if he is game playing?!!! Just remember the old saying, "There are plenty more fish in the sea", and do go and see your therapist, get help so that you can heal. Write to us we offer support, love n hugs, I send you strength, and peace.....Sprinkle 1....