I'm new, and I need help. Please

[yellowstar23]

Hey, this is my first time. With everything going on in the world, and in my life, I haven't felt like myself. I feel like a terrible, horrible person, and all I do is disappoint others. Whenever I find something good, I mess up, like now, and I don't know what to do. Keeping my emotions in won't work. And talking to my parents is no good since they are both upset with me. I don't know if I am depressed or going through anxiety or what but I don't like myself anymore. I don't deserve to be here.

[Hidden]

Hi. I'm kinda new too so I don't want to say the wrong thing. You seem really sensitive. I notice that you're really hard on yourself. Hang on. There are others out there. You are not alone. This too shall pass. I would like to suggest warm lines for local resources or a crisis line if this is a crisis. I hope others on here can give good info too.

[blksunshyn]

First, I want to let you know that you absolutely do deserve to be here. We aren’t not defined by our mistakes! We are so much more than that.

I am sorry to hear that you have been feeling down. You are not alone. I often feel like I am a disappointment or a burden to others and undeserving of love.

If you are worried that what you are feeling is anxiety or depression, you should seek professional help.

But if you are hesitant or that is not an option, I think journaling is a good option. In times of adversity, perspective is important. Being upset can skew your perception and make you believe that everything has gone to shit — allowing a bad moment to turn into a bad day, a bad day into a bad week, and so on.

Writing down your thoughts (good and bad) is a good way to see the world from a more realistic, unbiased perspective. It also allows us to release when we feel like we have no one to talk to.

Something I like to do when journaling: write an entry and at the end of it, whether it is a positive entry or a negative entry, I write down things I am grateful for. Not bullshit that other people would expect you to be grateful for but things that you are REALLY happy that you have right now. I call it my gratitude section.

Here’s an example:

I struggle a lot with body image issues, so I try to be grateful for what my body allows me to do instead of focusing on how disgusting I think it looks.

“I am grateful for the ability to physically complete my favorite tasks without difficulty.” Etc.

I’d also like to add that you joining this community is an excellent first step! It is difficult to be vulnerable and seek out help from others. You are so brave.

I hope this helps. ❤️

[Kkakdugi]

Hi! This is my first time here too and I hope I don’t say the wrong things . I just want you to know that you definitely deserve to be here . Everyone here is going through things just like you. So don’t feel alone! I feel like this is a good place to vent without judgement.

[tonalchemy]

There are a lot of people who may have important things to say to you, so give it a chance. I think I know what you're feeling. I've felt it nearly my whole life. Like an anvil hanging over my head. The best thing for me has been meditation, but it's different for everyone. There are good people here and I hope that you find some.

[Jason_16]

I am new too and I just wanted to tell you to not be so hard on yourself. No one is perfect we all just need to try and accept who we are and be greatful for what we can do. I am really into bodybuilder and have wanted to do steroids to look like the bodybuilders I see on social media, but then I realized its not the smart decision to make and instead I should just work hard, put it all out there and be happy with the results. I hope you can find peace within yourself and just know you have a friend here with me and you have other great people looking out for you.

[Rachel2535]

Don’t listen to those lies, because that is what they are lies! I used to hear those lies and it kept me in a deep depression for more then half my life. We all mess up but we can all be forgiven. And forgiving ourselves is just as important. Thank you for finding the courage to get on here and chat about this. I dealt with so much shame, self hate and confusion it wasn’t until I gave it all to Jesus that I started to live life to the fullest. Have you heard the song You Say by Lauren Daigle? Take a listen it has so much truth. Praying for you. -Rachel