I am new here and I am confused and need help

[randomhorses101]

I'm just really confused about everything that's going on in my head. I don't actually know if I have depression or anxiety I just know that I can't deal with the constant shifts in emotion. Like for example during the day, I'll be happy. I'll go to school and all is normal then at like 11 at night I am just being crushed by all these thoughts and emotions that make me hate myself and question all my choices. I have no clue what's going on and I guess I just really need people to tell me what it is or what to do about it?

[kenster1]

hi I looked up calmclinic.com and that could useful to you I did read though that lots of daytime stress can lead to night anxiety.maybe worth a look.

[randomhorses101 in reply to kenster1]

Thank you so much I really appreciate the help and support <3

[Sprinkle1]

I also suggest you talk to a therapist, you need to get this stress gone, it is making you ill. You need a clear mind and to be happy. Never feel ashamed or guilty about the way you feel/think life is difficult and we usually need help to get grounded. I send you strength, love and hugs....Sprinkle 1....

[randomhorses101 in reply to Sprinkle1]

Thank you thank you for your support it really helps just to talk to people sometimes <3

[Joanne1972]

I think it's because during the day you have things to distract you from your thoughts and sadness and when you are done for the day that's when you have nothing but focus on your sadness.

I wake up at 4am and I have to get up just so I can put the tv on or start feeding the cats...just anything to distract the sad thoughts.

I take one if my pills before bed as I know it calms my mind and makes me sleepy. So I'm not alone with my thoughts

I also have a fantasy daydream I think about when I'm in bed. I find making it as detailed and lovely as possible so you can really immerse yourself in it. It can be whatever's important to you and it's got to be great. I daydream I've just purchased a new house (with the lottery money I just won) and I picture my life in the house out in the garden. I went on the Internet to find a house I liked and I imagine what colour I'm painting the walls, what furniture will go where. And I usually fall to sleep in that daydream. Just make your daydream detailed and you will have lots of things to think about and hopefully fall to sleep

Good luck

Jo

[Sunrize]

randomhorses101 you are being very expressive and real. It sounds painful but also hopeful that you are so in touch with how you are feeling. I hope you are doing OK today. Have you considered therapy? I for one am a big fan of online therapy. It can be anonymous and affordable and you can do it whenever you want. The world is waiting for you to discover yourself!

[growinrace]

when thoughts of condemnation or shame, come to mind. I immediately shut them down, with prayer or reading a devotional. Have you tried affirmation cards? I have heard of them, but what I do I write on all mirrors of my house these affirmation quotes focusing on the good or one key thing that went awesome on the day! take it one day at a time!