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[Survivor4Ever]

Sometimes I get sick and tired of people trying to control how I should feel. Telling me how I should feel, I am going to react the way I want. And sometimes I feel you can’t tell people anything their reaction makes you feel worse and why did I even bother saying anything. And then they think they can fix my problems and change the way I feel. Wrong again I will feel the way I want whether that’s angry, depressed or whatever. Just stop bothering me. Is my mental state. At least today I am not anxious

[Hidden]

building your path to way to think, is personality and we all cope our own way - sometimes I am up and the other down - hope I get through it and you do - in your own way - freedom to think

[Survivor4Ever in reply to Hidden]

Exactly! I have my own my mind I can think on my own. All it does is depress me. And send myself down into the pit where I go and hate being in there. I sometimes can pull myself out by helping others

[Downandout123 in reply to Survivor4Ever]

Don't you just love it when people say-"But you shouldn't feel that way"?? I'm like-DON'T TELL ME HOW TO FEEL!!!😡😡

[Survivor4Ever in reply to Downandout123]

Yes it almost makes me so angry I want to get in a fist fight😤

[Kkakdugi]

I agree with you! Sometime people just need to vent and are not looking for opinions or solutions.

And going back to you saying people are telling you how you should feel. I see that with adults towards kids. Like if they fell down and the adult will say, “you are okay”. The child is obviously not okay, he fell and is crying.

[Hidden]

I hear you very clearly and this used to -- and sometimes still does-- make me upset. However, do know that many people are trying to help and otherwise do not know what to say. They know they can't control your feelings; heck I can't control my own feelings. The only thing we can control is how each of us behaves. I remember the person I was dating last summer asked, "what made you stop drinking" and I said, "I felt it was the best thing to do.. for awhile it was what stopped me from suicide, then I knew that if I kept drinking, it would lead to suicide." And he said, "but what happened." And I said, "it was just a feeling I had." Yes, but what happened.. after the third of fourth time I said, no matter how many times you ask, the answer will be the same, it's just a feeling and I decided to act in a way that I thought would be best for me. Some people we just need to stay away from because they'll never understand or support us in a way that's healthy. I hope you have some solace today (and no more anxiety!). Have a wonderful day.

[Survivor4Ever in reply to Hidden]

It’s just some people tend to have a more side negative effect on you Like some subjects to discuss are just “toxic” and create major problems . Some people call people toxic relationships or toxic friends, family but I believe some people you just can’t discuss everything with. Some things are just better left off alone. Because when done the emptiness,worthlessness and stupidity seems to overcome me. For awhile I may feel depressed and remind myself it’s just the illness not me. And bounce back .However, for someone reason this person has to go over and beyond to prove that I am wrong and why do I feel this way. Of course, I have my own my mind to think but depression can sometimes take you to the pit it just needs a little push.

[Hidden in reply to Survivor4Ever]

Hi there, I totally agree with you: with some people you can't discuss certain topics with. I just recently let back into my life a friend who I know simply cannot discuss anything in any emotionally deep way. I won't bother trying again. I go to other people for that. If people are toxic to you, get them out of your life now. Get positive people in your life who want to see you succeed and achieve your goals. I have no patience anymore for toxic people. My depression and anxiety are toxic enough, lol. Take good care.

[Survivor4Ever in reply to Hidden]

Have as great day ! Thanks too !

[Blacksheep2]

Kind of in same boat, but I can't tell them how I feel. Tbeir reaction makes me feel worst. Mom blames herself, brother and his gf jokes, lord help me if I say anything to my sister she always feels worst. Soblings already think the worst of me me.

Stay strong your not alone.