how do people deal with judgemental people? i feel so alone.

[friendly34]

Its been an intense week. i feel really low.

i’m fed up of judgemental people and its affecting my ability to socialise. i feel unliked by most people.

I have physical invisible disabilities which affect my ability to work- its more the consistency i struggle with as my conditions get affected by hormones. anyway as soon as people learn i’m on benefits- they judge me and think i have the easiest life in the world. . my immune system gets compromised v easily and my sickness record in paid employment always is high.

i don’t go round announcing to people i don’t work. but i am fed up with people judging me

for not being married, not having any kids and not owning my own house.

when i meet people with some of the same conditions as me- even they get judgemental and competitive. they say things like well, you haven’t got this extra condition that i have.

i feel like i don’t fit in anywhere.

i had to give up my voluntary job as it became to overwhelming. i was dating people but they ended up cheating on me. i don’t know what to do. this makes me feel like ending it all sometimes.

[fauxartist]

People who point fingers do so, so as not to see their own shortcomings or issues.

[friendly34 in reply to fauxartist]

thank you

[fauxartist in reply to friendly34]

Often I used to, and have to catch myself still today, so as not to, ... blame myself immediately if something was said to me that was critical. The ability to see where I should take responsibility for my own stuff, and when to not own someone else's projected crap, is the real art form to realizing a better balanced self-worth for me.

[friendly34 in reply to fauxartist]

thanks.

i personally don’t feel any guilt for not working. i work voluntary when i can.

what i do find hard is when people compare disabilities. like this person with epilepsy- has still been able to have kids, get a mortgage and get married etc but still chooses to attack me about not working. such a great point about someone elses projected crap. thank you for your comment. hope you are having a good sunday.

[fauxartist in reply to friendly34]

I think everyone's issues in life when dealing with health issues, physical, mental, etc. are all valid, and should feel validated. I cannot compare my stuff to anyone else's. Everyone handles things differently at their own level. I don't work anymore because I just physically can't. I would if I could, but I except that it's not my life now....so I paint now. I don't have to justify myself to anyone, they are not me, and you shouldn't either.

[friendly34 in reply to fauxartist]

good for you painting. that is fab. i am also creative. being creative and expressing creativity helps keep me sane 😊

[Rufus07]

I don’t work either due to depression, anxiety and social anxiety. I feel judged all the time. Even by my partner I hate to say. It’s like he resents me for being home while he’s working. He thinks the house should be spotless and so many other things. He tells me I have it made and anyone would love the life I live! lol. They can have my life! Most days I can hardly get out of bed let alone clean.

[friendly34 in reply to Rufus07]

sorry to hear your struggles too. hope things get easier for you x

[Rufus07 in reply to friendly34]

Thank you

[Agora1]

Hi friendly34, the Game of Life isn't about who has the most symptoms that wins.

I learned fast that when we might mention what we deal with on a daily basis, there

will always be that one person who wants to out do you. It gets us no where talking

about our physical issues except feeling like we've been shot down emotionally.

As for being single, having not started a family or bought that first home...don't allow

people to judge you for what their standards may be in their life.

Don't ever feel you have to become what they think is normal/average to make them

feel better.

We do what we can with what we've been given. Nobody or nothing is worth getting

ourselves upset. Our life, our choices.. xx