Stuck here

I’m still with an angry husband because of the virus. I don’t know if it was he was raised Christina Scientist, but hated it and quit when he was 16. He told his father he didn’t beleive in their ways. He married me joined my church, and started going to go to dr. When he quit his fathers church. I wondering now if he’s background is coming back to the way of life, or he’s just angry he can’t go, and do what he wants. He takes it out on me everyday, and I’m stuck here with him. I just can’t stay in my bedroom all day long. I go for walk to get away from hi, but how long can you walk. My nightmares are worse, anxiety, and depression

[Mary-intussuception]

Whilst out walking - have you considered phoning a Domestic Abuse helpline?

Just to make a start by talking things through.

Then you can consider your options?

You could enquire about what help there is available for you NOW before this gets out of control. You could enquire if there is any short term help on a temporary basis.

Just to get some breathing space away from this environment. So you can relax, catch up on some rest and calmly think through your options.

May I ask you :

What do YOU want to do?

Where would you like to live?

Do you have any pets?

There has been a 25% increase in calls to Domestic Abuse helplines in the UK.

At least Google search phone numbers and put them in your phone ready - just in case.

Your other option is calling 999.

Be careful. Keep yourself safe - even if it means going out or staying in another room.

At this moment I do not think it matters - trying to figure out why he is like this. You must get safe, some peace , clear your head. Restrictions can be broken in Domestic Abuse situations. If it's fine outside I would go out, walk and phone for advice & support.

This is so hard for you, so sorry.

Gid Bless.

x

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Thank you for your advice, and caring.❤️

[Dreamie]

Good morning, Sister. I call you sister because I can feel some of what you are going through. In particular, at this point in time, my husband and I are living under the same roof but completely “separated”. I also have struggled for many many years with depression and anxiety. If I may make a suggestion I would say, pour your heart out to God. He loves you like you cannot imagine and He will lead you in the way you should go. He may have led you here. I believe ALL things are possible with God. Know that I am praying for you right now. Dear one, you have no control over your husband. Let God have him. You do what you need to take care of you! God has got this WHOLE situation! ❤️

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Thank you for caring❤️

[Mary-intussuception in reply to Hidden]

Yes, He is the One you need right now.

❤

[Mary-intussuception in reply to Dreamie]

Amen

xXx

[SuZQ154]

So sorry! This isolation has the power to make us closer or draw us farther apart. In either case, it takes both people. We can only choose for ourselves. The 3 C's for the pandemic, as well as your husband's behavior. You didn't C-cause it. You cannot C- control it. And, you cannot C- cure it.

Some guidelines which seem reasonable for the pandemic, might also apply to what YOU can do with for yourself, in regards to your relationship with your husband.

1.Media distancing.

2.Do not engage with worry. Take action. Say, “Don’t take the bait.”

3.Focus on present odds.

4.Do not react to your own physical symptoms.

5.Focus on being productive and new ways of enjoying life.

6.Engage in stress reduction activities.

7.Do not go beyond the CDC guidelines. No compulsive behaviors. Like hand washing.

8.Preserve some sense of normalcy.

9.Be kind to yourself and others and have FAITH!

10.Seek our professional help, if needed!

Hope this helps and praying for you today!

[Hidden]

Thanks for you advice, and caring.❤️