Virus with PTSD

I’m trying to have hope that this virus will be gone soon. It is so hard for me with PTSD. My husband who’s afraid too, wash you hands, don’t go close he says. But at the same time, he drives me crazy every morning he get up, he tells me they should stop the lockdown. I ask him why more people are dieing. He then goes on to say I can’t go to the library, I can’t walk where I want to. I tell him we all have to to this to get rid of the virus, he won’t shut up, I tell him go away. Then he starts yelling at me, why can’t you listen to me. He driving crazy, he makes cry even more. He retired for years. I don’t have anyplace else to go, except if I need some groceries, and we are stocked. Up, he follow me around the house

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Tell him to write his fears in a notebook/diary because you already know what you need to do to remain as sanitary as possible. Everytime he feels nervous he should write. You are allowed to go for walks if you do not have the virus or sit outside. Maybe he needs a sedative or an increase in sedative to calm his nerves. We are all pretty upset. You could take a ride by yourself. You'll be in your car put some music on. Maybe he needs to get out for a walk or sit outside. This has changed our lives for the time such it passes and it will. Maybe you could play cards and focus on something positive and his attitude might adjust to being a little more positive. I think he feels alone maybe do something together as in a walk TV ride order out take him to the store with you. This has impacted everyone 10 fold with anxiety and depression and people who don't suffer now do. You might think about a diary too. I've started one as a suggestion from my Therapist in the form of a gratitude journal. My blessings 🙏❤️

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Oh thank you, we do go for walks, he does come to the store with me. We do watch movies, he doesn’t like games.He doesn’t like anyone to tell him where he can go . Even tough he’s living in fear. For example, he still smokes, gets mad that no place let’s him smoke, he won’t go on a planes, he used to fly them himself, not because he’s scared,because he can’t smoke. Another example he never would put on his safety belt, he says no one has the right to tell him, he has to wear it to say he’s life. It’s was a holiday weekend, that’s when the police are out there to check out who doesn’t have their belt on. We were driving down the road, a cop started chasing us down the street to targets parking lot. Told him to pull over, ask him for his insurance card, and license, he told him no, I have the right to not wear it. The cop told him again, he said no, I was hoping he’d arrest him, to teach him a lesson,I-was so embrassed. But the stupid cop let him go. But now he wears the safety belt, I don’t know if because our car won’t let him not,or he knows he’ll get stop again.I know yes he’ afraid , but he knows what he should be doing, but he doesn’t want to be told. Thank you for you advice❤️

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You're always welcome..just some ideas I had. He's an adult and he'll have to pay and deal with not wearing his seatbelt...there are consequences for his actions and unfortunately you're part of his life. Make a list of the gratitude in your life and a list of some positive qualities you see in him. We are all on edge and cooped up isolating. Maybe there are some projects you've been wanting to get done. Nobody wants or can get on a plane now and it's scary so I'm with him there. Try to focus on self care for yourself...a warm bath...a book.. meditation...a talk with a friend...

It is not easy now and those of us who suffer from mental illness are having a particularly rough go.

My blessings 🙏

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Oh I didn’t mean going on a plane.now.I won’t go on a plane either. Actually every year in July I talked the whole family to seaside florida, this year we are not going. He won’t come with us because of smoking, he misses on on being with our family. I will take you advice of self care which I’m trying to do, but with him acting this way my PTSD is far worse. You take care yourself to. Thank you from the bottom of heart for caring❤️

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I used to be a Therapist who worked with hard core PTSD clients who would re enact war activity like crawling through bushes etc. ..I know how bad it can be but not to live with. My blessings ♥️🙏

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Thank you , it really means a lot that someone cares, and understands. Much love❤️

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Much love and blessings 🙏❣️