When things feel good, my anxiety comes up. It’s like I want to create a problem when there isn’t one. Does this happen to anyone else?
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Sometimes good makes me anxious
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Sure does, it's waiting for the other shoe to drop and it's terrible. It keeps me from living in the moment because I'm not present, I'm worrying about something bad that MIGHT happen.
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I feel that and have to talk myself off the ledge of self sabotage.
Mindfulness. Living in the moment. Works for me. When I'm able to practice it. My depression tells me everything is sad and my anxiety tells me I am doomed. If I look at the reality of what's in front of my nose RIGHT NOW, neither one of those lies are usually true.
It take practice. A lot of practice. And cannot be done perfectly. But the more I live a day at a time, the less likely I am to go off the rails.
Easier said than done. LOL. I fight with my disease every day.
in reply to LilyAnnepuppy
I feel that so much. I think my meditation would help. Thanks for helping me remember that 💛
So are you anxious now that I'm here..
🤣🤣🤣.
But to answer your question
I get anxious 24/7 with no damn reason ..
So good or bad , happy or sad ..
Dang I'm starting to sing
LilyAnnepuppy in reply to
Singing is good
in reply to LilyAnnepuppy
I sing every single day. Actually grew up with a family of singers and musicians.
Family gatherings were always singing and dancing
LilyAnnepuppy in reply to
Sounds like wonderful sounds.
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I love it whenever you are here. My anxiety can feel that way sometimes too. Which song are you singing lol
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Al green , let's stay together..
Lol 🤣..
Sometimes when I'm typing commenting , and what I'm typing sounds like a lyric of a song I begin to sing that song..lmao.
I might be weird idk🤷🏽♂️..
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Not weird, just an artist lol
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Lol🤣
Give yourself 100% credit or an A+ for recognizing your thought patterns. Your learning to create a healthy balance with your feelings and thoughts and what I see is your being very successful.
I guess for me I’ve had to stop labeling it and making it my ‘normal’ (this is just how I think) which eases me to think freely but recognize ruminating and when it’s being disruptive.
Your not trying to create a problem your trying to prevent one, maybe looking at it a little differently may help. What also might be helpful is setting a time in the day for ‘worry time’ (I learned this in CBT).
LilyAnnepuppy in reply to
I also have a 15 minute self pity period. Lol.
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Mine is first thing in the morning, usually about 30 minutes for me. 🤣😜
LilyAnnepuppy in reply to
I'm usually pretty good in the mornings anymore. During my breakdown they were terrible but now they're my favorite time. Late afternoon/ early evening are my "bad" times now. I need to feel sorry for myself because I've "wasted another day" to this stupid illness.
Maybe I should give myself 30 minutes. Lol.
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Night is the worst for me. That’s why I love to post and read on here
LilyAnnepuppy in reply to
I'll read on here sometimes in the evenings but I feel like talking more in the morning. At night I just want to scream and jump out of my skin.
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I get that feeling so much. Actually I have made some good friends on here and we text on the phone. That’s what I did last night. I find sharing the anxiety helps to quiet those feelings some
LilyAnnepuppy in reply to
I'm with you on the sharing part. But other than saying I want to scream and jump out of my skin there's not much to say. For me. Deep breathing. Meditation and mindless TV helps. Actually I've been watching a lot of documentaries lately. They're good for my brain it seems.
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TV can be good or bad for me. I have to control it and not binge watch or else it could actually cause me to lose motivation which triggers the depression. It’s like one feeds into the other
LilyAnnepuppy in reply to
Agreed. But sometimes if I'm walking around crying not being able to function, sitting down in front of the TV calms me down. I get agitated when I can't focus or "do" anything. The other answer (which is worse) is go back to bed. Sometimes I'm motivated enough to exercise but I'm talking about those depressed times when I can't push through any more than I can.
in reply to LilyAnnepuppy
I get all of that completely. It depends on the day for me. I’ve learned that action is better for me than sitting and if I start being active earlier in the day then I feel better and can manage my anxiety and depression better. However there are some days I just can’t do it and the couch wins 😜
LilyAnnepuppy in reply to
Yes. I have to balance pushing through things and being gentle with myself. Moderation is not my best trick. It's something I work on regularly. 😎
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I actually used to set a timer on my microwave to just let myself cry and try to contain it. It actually did work.
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You are so right! Reframing my thinking would really help. By posting here and hearing from all of you, I’m preventing myself from self sabotaging
Oh yes, it’s like you’re describing me haha, especially in my relationships!
If things go smoothly i MUST ruin them, it’s like balance makes me anxious and annoyed 🤷🏻♂️, but I’m learning how to let go of the bad thoughts and enjoy every little good thing in life, it’s hard but I’m trying.
As someone said, mindfulness, meditation and yoga that’s what helps me be Here and just let life happen and understand and believe that I deserve every good thing in life.
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I’m entering a fun and potentially healthy relationship which is totally new for me and although I am happy and excited, my anxiety is still this quiet little voice in the back of my head. At least it is quiet now though
SoniaGorgeous in reply to
Yay! I’m very happy for you dear, you deserve all the best things in life❤️
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Thanks SoniaGorgeous. I’m taking it slow but he understands
SoniaGorgeous in reply to
I’m very glad that he is so understanding, like having a relationship with a stable and patient person is the most beautiful thing.
My bf is sane and patient beyond my belief, how he manages my demons is beyond me.
I wish you all the best and you’re right for taking it slowly, after all slow and steady wins the race!!
Good luck❤️
Yes because I'm waiting for the ball to drop that may not. I'm not used to feeling good for long.
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I know it’s like I hold myself back from joy when it is right in reach 🤷🏻♀️
Yes.... lol happened yesterday and feels like it’s creeping in early today. If you could only hear the crap spinning in my head right now.... today of all days eh? Lol.
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I know my anxiety usually gets me when things are the best. My depression gets me when things fall apart. Then I rebuild and I go through it all over again. I want to stay here in this good place this time. It’s like minute by minute I have to practice mindfulness
CanuckAnon in reply to
💃💃💃💃💃💃still dancing for you!!! Mine will pass... it’s me just trying to freak myself out.... lol I’m medicating early this time! 🤣☀️🌷😊
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I’m excited for you too! Are you all ready for the good in your life?? 🤩
CanuckAnon in reply to
Baby steps apparently is freaking me out... but 8-9 hours to work myself up to being readyish. That’s the crap on my head.... sorry. I’m here for you just need to start the distraction ritual to get my mind off it. Yoga, meditation, shower, drying hair, smoothie for lunch, walk the dogs.... 😊
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That sounds like an awesome day. Good for you friend. I’m excited for you
It's waiting for the other shoe to drop or glass half full thing. Sometimes we don't feel we deserve to be happy, or have a past where someone in our life has always thrown ice water on our accomplishments or happiness to knock us down. So we just have to take a deep breath and take it in...We deserve to be happy.
in reply to fauxartist
I love that analogy. That’s exactly how it feels. I’m so thankful to share this with people who completely understand. I don’t want to bring all this into this new healthy relationship. I know I can push past the anxiety but it helps to share and feel like I’m not weird
Yes,, because then my mind wonders when will the bottom fall out?? Things are going too good.
in reply to DJB74
I’m really trying hard not to think like that. Just walking towards joy instead of closing off because of anxiety
DJB74 in reply to
One thing Ive been practicing is "positive " triggers". As negativity crosses my path. I insert a positive affirmation. Currently my longhaired, miniature dachshund that follows me wherever I go, snuggles right up to me when I sit loves kisses and laying her head next to my face and coming up wanting to go with me every where I go. So if this pure baby loves and trusts me so much, I need to believe in myself as mucjh as she does.
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I love that. Animals are magical. I’m gonna use that. Positive triggers 💛
Yes! 🙋🏻♀️ This happens to me. Sometimes I get so happy it gets me excited, then it triggers my anxiety. Also, sometimes when things are good, I start looking around, surely this is a fluke, right?! 😃
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That’s exactly how you feel. I get worried and it causes me to shut down
I have a date with a guy who really likes me and I really like everything about tomorrow. You would think I would be excited but I reverted to old unhealthy coping today of junk food and isolation. I’m not scared of my date but I do feel my anxiety about letting someone new in I guess. I don’t want to lose myself after all my hard work to manage my symptoms in a healthy way🤷🏻♀️
I absolutely do need to tell him. Texting makes me more anxious, so I’m going to tell him in person
Thanks for your response it really helped at the right moment
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