Stress, anxiety and depression about moving from sister's pressuring myself and husband.

[miles45]

I am new here and not sure how to log in, user name, etc. If someone could please give me instructions how to do this, it would be appreciated. My post concerns my husband, who is 82 years old and myself. I have a sister, who is 70 and her husband who live in Port Orange, FL for most of their life. We have no family where we live in Wisconsin. My sister is constantly writing or calling we need to move to Florida to be near them, however, I have never been close to this sister for 20+ years and have not seen her either. My husband is in poor health and I have had breast cancer and surgery, neither of us are sure what to do, our house was sold as it was too much to take care of and we are looking at senior independent apartments in Wisconsin. I am so confused and feel pressured by my sister to move to their area in Florida and my husband has dementia and he does not understand what this would all undertake. If anyone has any advice and/or sugggestions about us moving to a totally different environment and get used to living in a different area of the US, please write. I am having anxiety and depression over all of this moving to Florida and I do not know what to do. My sister tells me if something happens to either of health, she and her husband would take care of us. I hardly know her nor her husband, please help with any thoughts, advice, suggestions. Thank you all so much.

[lillyofthevalley37]

Hi welcome , what is your gut feeling ? If your husband died would you be very lonely without him or do you think you could manage on your own in the area you know ?

[Sprinkle1]

Hello, Sorry you are in this quandary. I am 77 came from England 55 years ago, lived in Calif for 42 years then 14 years ago moved to Sth. Carolina, I knew no one here, I live in a Senior Community, there is lots to do, we have a club house, pool and outdoor sports, plus exercise room. I say listen to yourself, what do You want? I have a brother in England only 59 and would like me to move back there, but I do not think or feel I could settle in, I am too Americanized. I have two lovely cats, do not want to part with them. When I moved here I had my dream home built, I am so proud of myself. my close friend who lived just up the road died in Aug. I get along fine, my health is good, I do volunteer work at our local library and love it. I do not get lonely or bored there is so much to see, do and learn, I live in the moment and am happy Everyday.

My answer once again is listen to yourself, what do you want, do not cause yourself pain and turmoil, take a note book and write in it what you want and what you do not want, that should help put you in the right direction. Write to us here we will try to help and give you support. I send you love and Big hugs.....Sprinkle 1......

[Hazrat]

its good to get close to your sister, she will take care of you, move over there, will assist you