Now my wife says she can't stand being around me and wants a divorce.
I would not care really except we have 2 wonderful children and they will most certainly
suffer from this.
On top of all that I am somewhat isolated. I have old friends but
almost none who live in the town we moved to 5 years ago.
You don't deserve to be in this situation. No one does. I've been in your shoes, ultimately I lost my marriage and although we were both at fault for neglecting each other for many years, it was mainly due to my struggles with mental health. Unfortunately many people who do not suffer from our ailments are unable to see our suffering and often struggle greatly to understand what it's like to be in such pain.
For my wife in particular, it was hard for her to imagine why it has taken me many years and I have not been able to "snap out of it" as she would often say. Once people close their minds to understanding our struggle there is not much we can do. Good luck my friend
Thank you. Yes, it is hard for people to understand what it is like.
Even I sometimes think I should just snap out of it back to my happy self again.
So sorry, you need loyalty and love and so does your wife. I really hope you can work through your problems.
Compassion is such an important quality to have. I expect this of myself and my future wife because I know how frail us humans can be and how much we need tenderness. You deserve to be shown compassion from others my friend especially from your wife.
So sorry. It's hard to explain to your family what is happening. My husband has a hard time understanding and he is a nurse. Same with my daughter who is a family nurse practioner. My son and his wife are pretty great about trying to understand and making me feel safe and less anxious. Just keep trying to communicate with your wife. Hopefully she will be able to grasp some degree of how much you're suffering and how hard you are trying. I hope everything works out.
This reminds me of my situation. My other half came home after work one day and muffled "still?". I heard him say that and it really hurt deep inside.
I had been in bed for over a month, depressed, unable to eat and crying. There is no "snapping out of it".
I have finally found a combo of meds that are working for me and I am finally my old self again. I'm also back to seeing my therapist as of today, now that I'm able to leave the house.
It takes time, it took me reading others success on meds to actually find something to be semi happy about while in bed all that time.
There is hope for you and most people who have never been depressed have no clue as to what we actually feel. It hurts like hell.
Good luck and I hope your wife realizes your pain and steps up and talks things out about you and yours.
This must be so hard to deal with from your other half. I cant help but wonder what would draw a person to marry someone who is so insensitive. They would have to prove they are kind before I married anyone. But maybe thats because Im poignantly aware of my need for care. Maybe not everyone thinks like me.
I'm not married to him but I agree with you.
Hello sorry your going through this are you on any medication at all for depression amd amxiety??
People don't understand unless they've walked a mile in your shoes. Those who have experienced only "the blues" now and then don't "get" feeling totally flat and dead inside. The ones who have occasionally had mild temporary nervousness have no idea what it means to have weeks or months of gut-churning anxiety that has you ready to jump out of your skin. There's no point in trying to make them understand. 😑
Just focus on healing no matter what your wife decides. Hugs to you....
I'm sorry that you're wife doesn't understand what you're going through, it's not easy living with someone that don't feel what you're feeling , maybe she needs counseling for the children's sake, Pray on it God listeneds and be patient if you don't get answer right away. Don't stop praying. God bless you and your family.
Depression & anxiety 
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