I was really depressed yesterday and called my husband crying. I finally talked to him and he told me nobody wants to talk to someone who’s crying or depressed. I have little support. I have been dealing with depression and anxiety for 7 months now.
My medicine hasn’t been working. Now the medicine I take for depression is helping but my anxiety is making me depressed. Anyone else have this happen?
My husband understands my condition somewhat. As much as anyone who hasn’t had depression can. Yes I see a therapist. Thank you.
Yes. I know exactly how you feel. You need emotional support that its posssible he may not be able to provide. Same way ith my wife. I completely undersstand
following on from the therapist, could they perhaps recommend one for both of you or can you both see that one, so that he can have explained what you're going through, why you do and how he can help with how to react / speak etc...
When I was first diagnosed with generalized anxiety and clinical depression, I still lived with my parents. They didn’t understand why I needed to take medicine and see a therapist. It really hurt our relationship. I didn’t even want to live at that point. It took a lot of time for us to rebuild our relationship to the way it is now, which is a healthy loving relationship I always wanted with them.
When I first was diagnosed, I was in a long time relationship and my ex didn’t understand me AT ALL. He would belittle my feelings of depression, call me a liar, etc. When I was in the mental institution, I called him (a few months after I broke up with him) and he called me a liar. After that, I realized I had to be all I needed. It took a long time.. it’s a tough road and I hate saying this but it’ll get better. It won’t be amazing and won’t always be that way, but it will be better than where you are. I really wish you the best!
I believe in you! I hope you can get the help you need. I love this community and I hope you find it helpful as well.
regarding your medicine: that happened to me and the side effects were really bad. I stopped taking medication overall because of it. Do what’s right for you though. That’s just my experience.
Thank you. I am so glad you have a good relationship with your parents now. It will get better soon I hope. Take good care of yourself.
anxiety disorder is a monster, many do not want to understand it, not sure how yours plays out but in general the constant depressing renumeration, overwhelming fear and anticipation of dread can be overwhelming for the commoner, I would think your husband should have had second hand experience with it, but sometimes it just gets overwhelming for even those who have experienced this with a spouse, I would take this as a signal for you to call your doc.
One positive is that you haven't been dealing with depression your whole life. That should mean that there will be ways to reduce it. Keep up the talk therapy, use the medication if it helps. I read that 6 weeks of daily exercise is equivalent or better than a course of anti-depressants. I tried it and it was of value. At the time (some 6 years ago) they didn't know whether it was because of the mindfulness of exercise or something physiological going on.
More recently I started Couch to 5K (non-running to running for 30 minutes) on Health Unlocked and that has given some health goals to maintain. It provides a podcast or app to run to while a coach tells you what to do during the run.
Yes I have and I an sorry your Husband is not helping you through this. This is his job as head of the family! Get a indoor waterfall or tapes of rain sounds or even a older Dog. Sit back and relax. After all you are not alone, God is there and wants to help so ask home he is always near by. Find a quiet place and listen to something calming or pet your pup! This helps a lot!
I have been dealing with depression since I was 19. I am 57 now. I have started to exercise. I don’t run but love to walk. Thank you.
Please talk to your doctor about switching your medication. It usually takes a couple weeks to see if it’s working and if it’s 7 months it’s long enough to know it’s not. Your doctor should change it. In the beginning of taking these meds it’s very hard to find something that fits you with outside effects too. That can be depressing and make things worse too. As far as your husband he is insensitive and I want to say bad words but won’t. He doesn’t get it or understand. My husband is the same way. He doesn’t understand why I can’t drive some days to the grocery store 5 min away when he could drive to CA alone that takes three days. People that don’t have it don’t get it. Try to find a therapist. It took me forever to find one and I just started. I’m not sure how it’s going because I honestly feel more comfortable telling everyone here my issues than the therapist. I don’t feel I KNOW my family and friends are sick of hearing me but I don’t care. What we feel is real and it’s horrible and hard and lonely unless you know others that have it and understand.
I want to say don’t talk to your husband about it because it will only hurt u more and make u mad and give you anxiety but I can’t tell you what to do. I know if it were my husband his clothes would have been on the porch lol keep writing here and talking here. Answer other posts and help others. We learn when we teach. Hang in there
Yes I've been coping with dep/and and family stuff and my husband just up and left.
That's miserable! I'm hoping that you can make something good out of a terrible situation.
As someone who suffered from anxiety and panic attacks for 30 years. In my opinion your spouse isn’t the right person to put our mental sickness on. I ruined my marriage by “putting in on her” find friends, support groups, continues therapy, faith, excersize, meditation. We all have to heal mentally, but physically and spiritually as well. I believe if you miss any one of those 3 we can’t heal. Praying for you!
Hi, Tweety.
I didn't really want to talk to my husband about my depression or anxiety. I told him once to not talk to me when I was upset or angry. So he didn't ask at all for at least 15 years. Not one moment to console me and hear me even when I desperately needed someone to hug me. I felt shunned but I had also caused the missing communication by telling him to leave me alone.
My husband and I split up 5 years ago. We would have been married 22 years in April. But I didn't kick him out for not speaking. He was cheating on me and doing some things that were probably illegal. I miss him a little but being independent again is great.
Your doctor should re-evaluate your medication and dosage. I take a couple of different depression and anxiety drugs but it took awhile to get the mix right. And if you have a wonderful friend who loves you, talk to them. Really good friends will listen to you even when you are crying or depressed. I kinda feel that HealthUnlocked has been one friend that I'm glad I found. Lots of love hear and we don't mind the crying. That's what friends are for, as the song goes. Prayers, light, love and hugs.
Oh my gosh thank you so very much. I am sorry about what happened to your marriage but it sounds like being single can have some benefits. I am overwhelmed by all the responses. I know now I am not alone. I think my depression meds are starting to help. I will keep working on it. All the best to you and all the others who have kindly replied.
My anxiety hopefully gets better too. Again thank you! Take good care of yourself.
I’ll be here to support you ! Just being able to let it out without someone criticizing is a lot of help. Especially with others that understand. I had a very bad anxiety disorder that was 24/7 for 5 months straight that I felt I was gonna die of a heart attack at any given moment. It has since downgraded by a lot. It also caused depression. I cried out a lot bc no one understood or thought I was overreacting which hurts more bc it felt like everyone thought it was an excuse to not work or whatever. I went through a lot myself. My boyfriend wasn’t very understanding bc he didn’t know how it felt like. However, all the crying and panic I displayed... he saw how much I needed the comfort and would hug me and talk to me saying it will pass and have more faith in myself bc I can do anything and he would be there. Those words help a lot ! A lot. Him hearing me out and just listening and just hugging me helped a lot. I didn’t take any medication bc I didn’t wanna depend on it. I made the decision to bare with in and eventually got the hang of it. So when I had days without anxiety . It would click in my mind and i would say to myself. See we did it and now i have anxiety like every two weeks that last 3-4 days compared to before where I would have 1-2 days of no anxiety a month. I can’t hug you but I am here for you 
you can do it ! I believe in you with all my heart ! Kick anxiety and depression in the butt !
Wow it is great that you have come so far. Thank you so much. It’s encouraging to read your situation and how far you have come. I am doing ok today. My husband did apologize and he’s stressed out from work. So that could be part of it. He’s frustrated & so am I. We love each other & have been married 30 years in Feb.
Thanks so much!
I’ll hear you out I’m with you in spirit ! You can do anything !! I know it hard but when the good day clicks in ! Look in the Mirror with the most sincere smile and say “ see we did it, we can do it ! Today we’re at our peak. If today is possible so is everyday!!!”
My boyfriend also snaps at me when he’s stress from work. It makes me feel comforted to know it’s work and not me and even apologizing for it . I’ll tell you you did no wrong, you’re awesome and in no time your strong spirit will live again with no limit and worries ! Omg 😮 30 years ! That’s amazing ❤️ Goals ! I also love you you’re amazing and strong !
Thank you for your encouraging reply. Yes I think it was his work and he was tired. Really long hours for him. I am having a good day. Finally 😊
I’m so proud I really think you’re amazing 😉
I don’t feel amazing today. I can’t think of anything good about me. 😢
I can understand your situation. I have been since my teens.I can go for about 3 weeks and then then get depressed!lately I can’t get anyone to understand how bad I fI keep asking why is there such a condition as depression and why do some of us suffer and others can stay in a good mood for months! Hope you find your friends on here as we know what you go through! Thank goodness my husband doesn’t yell at me when I don’t have the energy to keep up the housework and why I want to stay in bed because I feel so bad! Depression is a terrible disease and it’s finally being addressed! Hope you feel better soon!
Thank you. I used to be so organized & cleaned all the time. Gave up on that. I don’t know why some get depressed & others not. Unfortunately I inherited this illness. Right now I don’t sleep during the day. I have before though when depressed.
Yes it is a terrible disease. My mom used to say “everybody has something”. My disease is genetic. Thanks and I hope you feel better too.
Yes!! I have found that sometimes in my lowest darkest hours that NO ONE is really there for you! I am not sure how religious or spiritual you are but the only one that is ALWAYS there for me is Jesus! ALWAYS FAITHFUL, ALWAYS THERE!!
This site is also a great blessing even if it’s just to get things out and to hear from people that feel the same way.
Hang in there you are not alone!
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