Lying husband? Paranoid

[Alexis74]

I am completely consumed with cheating husband, I'm isolated with nowhere to go, I sit in my house with my dogs and cry. I can't figure out how to get out of this situation, no job, 2 big dogs, not to mention my eratic emotional crap.

[Natsteveo]

So has your husband cheated?

So sorry your feeling this way

Nat

[pink83737]

Hang in there! Maybe try looking for jobs and take it easy.

[dore13]

Can't you go to a shelter? This is not living a healthy life. You have given your husband all the control, you should reclaim your life.

[hypercat54]

Hi well sitting in your house and crying isn't going to help or change anything. I am not sure which country you live in but if in the UK there is lots of help available and benefits too.

Are you working on your mental health? Maybe if you do you can get a job so you can support yourself. Do you have any family/friends who could put you up for the time being? This sounds like a very toxic environment which can only make things worse for you.

I hope you find some answers. x

[Hollick]

So sorry that your suffering through this buddy. I hope God helps you find the inner strength I know you have to make it through the dark storm. I know you feel alone, and perhaps lonely as well, remember your dog's are there with you as well. I bet everyone of them loves you in their own special way. Alexis wherever you are, God bless you, and please know God is also with us. It's dog spelled backwards. Be good to yourself.

[Alexis74]

I want to cry, thankyou. I feel like I'm going the opposite direction because my lonely got me down so far, drinking, trying to find attention from other men, this sucks so hard

[Hidden in reply to Alexis74]

Alexis if you leave the house - he might change the locks an deny you entry. If he is

the sort of man you say he is, is this a recent event where he suddenly left after a row?

If this is in your imagination and has been magnified with worry form lack of sleep

it is the fact you are lonely which is worsening the situation. If you feel it is your fault things are pear shaped, that is not true so you don't have to feel it is your fault. If you have had any medication to help the depression and the anxiety, this might have helped but you can't combine the alcohol and the meds. There must be a group for you to share your problems - it can help.

[KrierandRosie]

First get your feelings in check before starting with other men. One thing at a time.

[Hidden]

Heh - do you think your partner left due to your insecurities? Is the door shut or do you want to chat to iron it out. As you feel you need to attract other boy friends may be this is because you feel some how you have to prove you are attractive and compete with other girls? Keep in touch with friends and family to lend an ear. If you are totally lonely you may need medical support with medication from your doctor if you have depression which can help your mood. You are obviously a social butterfly - so it won't be long before you make friends with someone you like as a person.

[Alexis74 in reply to Hidden]

Probably he left partly for that. He has to be exhilarated all the time,

[Hidden in reply to Alexis74]

Sorry that is a sign of a narcissist - you may find it difficult to make any relationship with a person who is a me- me -me sort!

[Alexis74]

Thank you everyone for the feedback, I was a strong independent woman when I met him. I allowed myself to get lazy and completely dependent. I now realize it's a journey I'm going to get through and I'm leaving....there is a treatment facility where I can be housed and stay till I get off crap and get on my feet. Hes still telling me it's all in my head, I'm seeing the truth, hes using me so he doesn't have to move in with the next chick, he has a girlfriend aside from her as well! What a major blow!! Were talking a 67 year old man!!

[Hidden in reply to Alexis74]

Why should you leave your own home? Do you have proof of this or do you think this is depression? If you have no proof but feel he is not paying you much attention and likes chatting to other women - that's common with a lot of men. It does not mean they are having a fling. Perhaps a trip to a marriage counsellor would help as this fear and insecurity needs attention. May be spending some time giving yourself a new look, having your hair done or buying a few new clothes will make him pay attention to you. If he says he still loves you and you are imagining this, that means he still wants to be with you.

It's time you need to chat with him and find out where he has been living if he has been away. At least that way, you should have a say in your financial arrangements if he is having affairs. Think you should look at your home, and change it with some new curtains

or decorating. If you have pets you would be broken hearted being away from them.

I would not take the decision to leave your home too quickly. If he wants to leave to live with his new friends, then if he does not pay his way, they won't want him around for too long. They won't want to be around to wash his socks. This is your home. If you have a joint bank account use it to make yourself feel better.

[Tara52]

I understand. There was a time in my life where I had a good job and was independent and hot involved with a lying, cheating man who seduced me. I ess blindsided by the "love bombing" in the beginning of the relationship. Slowly after becoming entrapped I became a dependent , frightened victimized woman I I didn't recognize anymore. I lost my self respect. Anyway I watched alot of YouTube videos on narcissism and unsafe relationships and finally got free. I think once we understand how these sick selfish men operate and the controlling tactics they use we can learn how best to respond to them and get free from their bondage.. I will be praying for you!🙏💗