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[lexlynn]

I'm an aunt and sometimes my niece and nephew will come over they are the ages 4 and 5. I am not that new to kids I spent a lot time a round kids. For four years I raising my dads girlfriends kids ages 5,10,13 on top of having a younger brother who was 11 at the time I'm sure I get into this later and the frustrations of that situation.

1. Screamed because he couldn't sharpen the colored pencils that were already sharped.

2. Screamed because his sister was using the same colored pencils.

3. Screamed because his sister was jumping on the trampoline while we was jumping on the trampoline.

4. Screamed because I took him of the trampoline for kicking and punching his sister on trampoline.

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Sounds like the lad needs lessons in sharing.. Explain and talk to the children Parents.

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BOB

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Sounds like normal sibling arguments. If they are normally well behaved, could be the kids are acting out since mom and dad are not around.

This is a discussion you should have with the parents, I’m sure there are some parent guidelines they can pass to you in order to handle tantrums, what to do when they are not sharing, etc.

[Hisue]

Sounds like sibling rivalry/jealousy. My pretty, older sister (by 4 yrs) verbally teased, bossed & taunted me, unmercifully (usually when adults were not around).

My parents & grandparents didn’t realize it most of the time; as she was quiet, well-behaved & clever/sneaky about it. I was obedient, very gullible, easy-going & she usually did the tormenting when adults were not around.

Three examples:

I became a school phobic in first grade, at 5 yrs old, because she repeatedly told me that my elderly, first grade teacher was the “wicked, old witch” from Hansel & Gretel who was going to bake me in her oven & eat me for dinner.

She took me for a long walk down the beach when I was 4 to “find shells”. She “lost” me, far away, at ocean’s edge & returned to my parents alone. Luckily, the lifeguard found me & my parents became aware.

At 14, I had beautiful teeth & she needed braces; so she told me I looked like a horse whenever I smiled. I stopped smiling.

(Many other incidents while growing up). I became increasingly anxious & depressed.

It is good that you are seeing the obvious and can diplomatically bring it to the parents’ attention. Perhaps have the children visit separately/one at a time, until the situation is resolved. Sounds like the older child wants your full attention. It is so good of you to help.