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FEELING VICTIMIZED AND HURTING AT THE MOMEMT

Hello All,

I have a wonderful job at the local community college’s Art department. I’m their Office Admin. I love my working environment and it’s my home away from home.

Currently I’m away on vacation and just received word that over the Holidays our office was broken into and hit hard. My computer was one of the several stolen items. The thieves also hit other buildings around the college.

I feel so heartbroken and victimized. I am so baffled as to how and why there are such cruel people in this world that can do such a terrible thing like this while leaving victims left behind.

I know that my coworkers and I will get through all this. It just hurts so feeling so victimized especially after receiving the news 😢

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Agora15 years ago

MrZee, I am so sorry this happened to you...

MrZee• in reply toAgora15 years ago

Thank you Agora1.

Tbine5 years ago

You know MrZee, first i'm very sorry to hear of such misfortune. I'm a news watcher type of guy, i know i shouldn't watch it because it showcases some of the very dark nature that some individuals are capable of inflicting upon the innocent,. The people who refuse to see the "bad" in people or the world they now live in. And it's because of this in many cases, NOT ALL CASES,. That these type of people become victims. But then there are instances like what happened at your job where there was nothing you could do to prevent it. Because of my childhood and being exposed to bad areas of my neighborhood, i learned early on to be very leary and untrusting of people who "appear" to be shady or up to no good. I hate to be or feel this way, but I'd rather be this way with my guard up, than a un-assuming victim who was blindsided by the predators who prey on the good hearted and all trusting individuals.

MrZee• in reply toTbine5 years ago

Hi Tbine,

I really appreciate your vigilant feedback. At this point I totally agree with what you’re saying. Being that I work at a college and with students, my office has quite a bit of traffic. Most likely our building (and the other buildings that got hit) were well scoped out beforehand. Unfortunately with their ripping off my computer, it has a lot of sensitive information on it. It’s password protected and I hope they’re not trying to crack it.

There’s an investigation going on now. We don’t know yet if this was an inside job or not. Or if it was a student or others scoping everything out.

But yes, lessons don’t come cheap. Now we have to be even more vigilant security-wise at our college.

So at this point it’s all a mess and we’ll just have to ride out the storm until it passes.

Thanks for your concern,

-MZ

fauxartist5 years ago

It always amazes me too, and then when you hear these people talk who steal and swindle people for a living, they have no feeling what so ever about what they do. They don't think at all about the consequences’ of their actions, it's their way of life. So we are left with a feeling of being violated and they don't give it a second thought. I had my first car stolen and in it was my favorite jacket and a few other things that were my little treasures. I was so angry and hurt and when I gave a police report, it was as if they were just annoyed at having to fill out the paper work, but in reality, everyone's car was getting stolen at that time where I lived, and this was in a very nice neighborhood, so we were ripe for the picking. I hate thieves...always have. I have always worked so hard for what I have, and to have someone just take it because they can just makes me so angry. But....it is what it is....they feel nothing, and eventually you will replace what you can.

MrZee• in reply tofauxartist5 years ago

Thank you fauxartist.

I feel for your situation too. Years back I was mugged at knifepoint. It was horrible. They got my wallet which held a picture of my grandmother and my mother and her baby buggy. All gone.

Weeks later I went to a workshop for people that have been victimized by physical theft. I’ll never forget them saying, “Don’t even try to figure out the mind of a victimizing thief. They are animals with no capacity for sympathy whatsoever.”

Still being victimized hurts and it will take a while for all this to pass.

I appreciate your shoulder. ❤️