Man!! I am having a rough day!! The depression and sadness I feel HURTS!!
Nothing I can do is easing this pain!!
I’m so tired of trying to fight off this dread and sadness!
It is so hard to walk around looking normal on the out side and absolutely dying inside.
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Do you want to talk more about what pains you? Is it the depression itself or something in your life that has led to depression?
Suffered with depression and anxiety for past 13 years. This current episode was brought on by my wife wanting a divorce out of the blue.
I’m so sorry. I can’t say I can relate exactly but I have been on separation from my husband before a few times.
You can get through this. Take each day at a time and try deep breathing and being in the present moment. Being good toward yourself is so important. I’m here to listen any time you need to release the thoughts and feelings.
Thank you Starrlight. I am here for you as well. Some days are bad and some days are worse for all of us. Today was my turn and thank you for listening, I will be here to listen when it’s your turn.
God bless you!!
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Thank you soooo 🙏 😊
Sorry today is not a good day! Have you tried to seek counseling! I believe at this phase of intensity it’s important to pick the phone up and make that call to do your first appointment. You must and should. Your well being is extremely important for yourself and to your children. Divorce/separation SUCKS and it’s something that you shouldn’t have to go through on your own!!! I am hoping that tomorrow is better. Think about what today (big or small) made today good?
I’ll start, what made it good, I was able to go to work and come back home safely. I believe what made a good day for you (which I know you have many more) you found a site that your able to express yourself appropriately and starting your healing process. ☺️
Thank you for your support. You always take the time to offer your kind words and it is noticed! 😊
I am seeing a therapist and I saw my medical doctor today.
I just had a really rough one today.
Tomorrow will be better, I have faith.
God bless you!!
Oh good!! Glad your in therapy! Yes and use this site as your platform to share your feelings. Let it out each time you can. I have always said to myself, why didn’t I find this site sooner. I’ve connected with some great people on here. I’m currently going through a divorce. Married for over 10 years with two children. I get your pain, but you are able to get through this. I am certain. Grieve all you want and take your time daily. There is going to be a silver lining to your story one day
Boomba, I'm glad you are seeing a therapist and your doctor.
I was wondering if you might be on any medication to take the
edge of your emotions while you are in therapy. It can help ease
some of the pain so that you can think straight. I am so sorry you
are in so much pain. A broken heart takes time to heal
Well, you don't have to hide your feelings in here. Say whatever is going through your mind. The more you can tell us the better we will understand. In turn you will get more advice, understanding or simply have more people who can relate. I can't promise anything will make you feel better but it sounds like you have a lot you'd like to say?
Go ahead, spill it out. Nobodies going to hold you accountable. I've found the people here have big hearts.
As for myself, I feel the same way that you describe all the bloody time! We probably have different reasons but the feelings that result are most probably very similar.
I feel stupid. I consider myself a failure. I see my life going nowhere. Something inside of me just keeps me going. I have no idea what it is or why I haven't given up.
How about you?
I know what you mean about the 'pain'. Sometimes it gets so bad it feels physical, literally!
But at the same time I've learnt to step aside (sometimes) and I've been able to laugh at myself!
I'm certainly not saying that anything about your situation is funny, not at all. But that is what I've started to do and the more I do it the more spontaneous it becomes.
Why do I laugh? The answer to that is actually quite clear to me. I've been on this ride for a very long time, with hardly any brakes. I consider it quite insane in fact. Madness, crazy! And crazy can be quite funny to me. Certainly not at 1st. But I guess I've had enough of crying. Laughter, to me, gives me a much stronger sense of relief! I used to cry and cry and cry and.....
But the crying became ineffective and having a good cry eventually stopped helping. No relief. "A good cry does you good!" no longer applies. But laughter definitely helps. You just need to learn how to step out of yourself and then look at yourself from a different perspective. A funny one!
It certainly doesn't happen every time. Another way to bring humour into the situation is to watch something funny. Of course, you won't feel like watching comedy when your world is falling around you but just try it. We all have a favourite comedy, one we can't NOT laugh at.
Mine is the Irish sitcom, Father Ted. I've watched each episode hundreds of times. I still laugh, even if it is just on the inside.
Not exactly a revelation, or even a therapeutic insight. Just something to try in the here and now. You never know, might help take your mind off stuff for a brief while.
I love this advice and I’m going to give it a try. Thank you for taking the time to reply, it truly helps!!
Good for you! I hope it works... it will work! 😅
I am sorry about the situation with your wife.
I know how you feel, your looking for a way out? But you feel like there isn’t? I think that’s Why? People commit sucide? My brother and cousin committed sucide back to back. My brother left a note stating that. I have a lot to be stressful about. I might be homeless? Trying to stop thinking that way? I didn’t read anything about counceling? So try that
I'm truly sorry that happened. I cannot begin to imagine the pain, my thoughts are with you.
Thank you, I use to wonder what makes people do it? Now I know, it’s an overwhelming feeling I’ve been there. Though I’m leaving it in God’s hands.
So sorry to hear what you are going through.
You have had some good advice from others who have been through similar experiences.
My problems are more anxiety related but I did suffer depression at first which the antidepressant Venlafaxine helped so much I feel it saved my life.
So hope you feel better soon
Kim
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