How can i love myself???

I cant seem to fogive myself for past faults. It has taken over my mind completely, why is my safe place my dreams? But lately my dreams are crippling also... I hate myself and I am a burden to everyone around me including my job. All I know is how to cancel plans and be in a depressed rut. I have been on so many meds that don't help ....therapy helped and then I felt promiscuous feelings towards my therapist and had to stop going. My mind is a prison. I drink to drowned the sorrow but feel way worse the next day. I put myself down constantly I just hate my life. Please any advice???

[DecemberDOE]

I can relate, I can't find myself to be happy. Being depressed is my only option. I cancel plans so much no on brothers to even invite me to anything anymore. I jt turned 31 and I hate my life

[Hidden in reply to DecemberDOE]

Thank for your reply.. ughhh why do we do this to ourselves???

[DecemberDOE in reply to Hidden]

I have no idea. I'm stuck in an unhealthy relationship,with 3 kids. I have a dream to become a teacher, but I don't think I'm even worth of the title because I can't deal

[senorab12]

I’ve felt like that a lot, and lately I found the way to forgive myself I figured that if I can’t love myself then nobody will, I have to learn to do things like forgive and love myself first before I do it with other people. You are a beautiful person and do not deserve all this pain you’re going through, ignore all the voices that tell you that you don’t deserve this or that, you have the right to be happy and nobody can take that away from you, don’t be hard on yourself. I tried doing things that I liked or I would try different outfits an look in the mirror and think oh I look nice in this, and I started to feel pretty and comfortable in my body, it’s hard and it doesn’t happen overnight but give it a try, we have to control our minds not the other way around, I’m still learning to love myself but little steps will take us far. You can do this!

[Billsfriend]

I have been going through the same thing with Regrets, self loathing, substance abuse etc. It has taken a while but I'm learning to let go of the past and to forgive myself for my mistakes (AKA Being Human). Part of my relief has come from working hard not to repeat my past mistakes, to be a better person.

Alcoholics Anonymous, and some Christian Churches have been Very beneficial in helping me to understand myself better, and to make changes. I still stumble almost daily, but only fall on rare occasions (I used to fall daily).

I hope you can find some help in my words, please know that many people suffer the same things as you, and that there IS relief available.

[SoberDrunk1]

I stopped believing in these cliches. The books Power of Now and A New Earth go to great extent how the mind operates and how we can become the observer of our own mind instead been criticed by it. You observe it as though you are watching a movie. Just that we have to do that a lot initially. Meditation helps. Drop all the devices and sit in a corner of a room and observe the thoughts and let go of them. Slowly a new dimension creeps into our lives.