Not so perfect timing

This couldn’t have happened at a worse time for me. I left the hospital yesterday. I have a broken wrist, with surgery to fuse bones, and a fractured ankle. My family is mostly gone. My husband helps me but is tired of it as we have four dogs that he rotes on; one with special needs. I am trying to tend to myself by because I know he resents it. This is already making my depression so much worse. Any tips on getting through this?

[Hidden]

If you have medicare, you might qualify for some home health, maybe some physical therapy to help. If you belong to a church, sometimes they have volunteers too. Any kind of help is better than no help. Possibly a neighbor kid out of school for the holidays might be able to help with the dogs? Im so sorry you have to deal with a wrist plus an ankle fracture, thats awful. Im recovering from 3 mo of knee surgeries. In the middle of it all, I was very depressed plus on pain meds for most of that time made it worse. Keep thinking this is temporary, by spring you will be alot better. Allow yourself to have a pity party, getting older and having body part issues isnt fun. Just dont give up💜

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

I’m going to try to stay positive. I finally met two women I could be friends with. One of them said I only talked about negative things and it was bringing them down. I haven’t had friends in years....they’ve passed. I met up with a neighborhood meeting and started seeing one of them a couple times a wee....going to some stores, or the beach....They had sort of “cooled” it off with me before the surgeries. Maybe I had brought up depressing topics? The ones husband died a year ago refuses to admit to any depression or effects. Maybe I’ve brought up this pain too much or talked too much about my son and his DUIs, anger at everyone, etc? I knew this and have little else to talk about? Maybe I’m just different than them. I think I have a Personality Disorder vi know it’s long standing depression and anxiety. I’m 61 and we have insurance that would pay for a lot of it....in home nurse for that horrendous 1st day home. Then, an LPN 2 times a week and pt a couple times a weekThe surgeon had set them up to call me as soon as I was going home. However, 4 dogs, his rheumatoid arthritis and my pain Has prevented much cleaning. Lately. Dog hair, floors need mopping....,just a mess. laundry is behind, clean laundry not put away. and filling living room chairs. He’s doing his best but one of our dogs requires pretty much watching 24-7 by one of us.....in a “wheel chair and braces” in order to walk.

I’m not able to do my part and it’s overwhelming him. He has suffered depression/verbal anger for a long time. We are certainly not living in Hoarder conditions but we have work we need to get done. However, We don’t know anyone well enough and long enough to get help. My husband would have to put all 4 dogs outside (they’ll bark). while they were here..... They get really hyped up with company.....we have not had someone they don’t know in a really long time.

Thank you for good, thought out suggestions

[Kainan]

Hi. I’m sorry you have to go through this. I broke a bone in my hand and foot this year. Had to have surgery on both. It sucks and can feel so discouraging, but it does get better with time.

[Hidden in reply to Kainan]

Oh I’ve learned I guess. I started breaking bones 10 years ago (I have osteoporosis at 61. I’ve had 8 surgeries on this ankle and it went on for 8 years. It’s fused with bone from my hip. I’m just older and alone and it’s like I don’t feel up to all this and my depression/anxiety. It’s life though and I know there’s plenty worse than me. I just need to keep my mind eased and find some strength in myself and trust in God.

[Hidden in reply to Kainan]

Thank you for the encouragement.....it can indeed get very lonely. I don’t need a lot of time on my hands......that’s when I get worked up to severe anxiety-and panic attacks. Then I seem to “talk” myself into deeper depression. I wonder if others have found that to be true? Hope you’re doing good and thank you

[Kainan in reply to Hidden]

You’re welcome. That happens to me too. Especially yesterday, I got myself all worked up because I felt lonely. I find that meditation and clearing the mind helps, but it’s still hard to deal with

[Hidden]

Hi sweetie, I’ve been really suffering with this wrist pain......ankle is better though because I’m pretty much staying off it mostly. I go see wrist surgeon on the 10th. And ankle surgeon on the 2nd. I got through Christmas and it was hard as hell BUT I’m not melting down currently with a panic attack. I hope you’re ok.....I haven’t been on much....just kind of down a bit. You doing alright?

[Hidden]

We will get there!

[NeuronerdDoaty]

Oh my that’s overwhelming. You’re in Florida. There are so many ‘helpers’ there; for light house work or just bathing for you or cooking. I would check with local companies.

I hope you feel better soon. Stress doesn’t help.