My not so perfect Love life.

[Strongest-Avenger]

I need advice. My scenario is pretty weird, I have been close to someone who I eventually fell in love with. I proclaimed my love to her like 3 years ago and she said she felt the same way. It was a long distance relationship but I recently just found out that she had been in and out of different other relationships with other guys while I was away. The sad part is that even at the time when I was confessing my love to her she was already seeing someone and she never told me that. At the moment, she says she is not ready for another relationship due to the fact that her other relationships did not turn out well but she says I should not give up on her. What should I do??

[Chancalot]

Wow, that's a lot to take in. I don't know about you but I feel like she just wants a standby, someone to fall back on but not be serious with. You deserve more than that. If she really feels the same way about you that you feel about her she would treat you the same.

[Agora1]

Hi Strongest-Avenger, I'm sorry this happened to you but glad that you found

out sooner than later. Life's not always fair when it comes to falling in love.

Her asking you to not give up on her sounds like she needs some space and time

to figure out just what she wants. What you do meantime of course is your decision

alone. I wish you well. xx

[kenster1]

hi I wouldn't be sitting around for weeks months or even years till she decided what she wanted.live a life for yourself and if that means meeting another woman then why not.being honest I think she used you just like the other guys she used and by sounds of it you deserve better.

[NeuronerdDoaty]

I think you deserve honesty and one person focused just on you. So far you haven’t gotten either in this relationship. Go back to friends and keep that space open for the person who wants you and is honest with you.

[Lady_lazarus]

Been there, got dumped after waiting for him!! She is just keeping you on the hook which is very cruel of her. Since you posted this here, i am assuming you have mental health issues. You need to take care of your mental health first. Make it your priority. As for the girl, i dont think you should wait for her. Definitely give up on her. I think you should move on for good. U have been in love with her for so long and the fact that she wasnt honest with you shows that she doesnt appreciate you and is very likely to hurt you again and damage your mental health. I know this sounds harsh but its the truth. So take care of yourself, move on, workout, do meditation, indulge yourself in some constructive hobbies like music, reading, writing, painting, yoga etc. You gotta take care of yourself first.

XO

Lady Lazarus