My fear of losing my kids to a monster and his mental fruitloop.

[Mom23boys]

My ex husband is very abusive in anything he does . We share 3 boys 15,10,& 7. He has used the courts and his money to abuse his power now just recently he has married my sister i had no idea but have a custody hearing Monday i am freaking out what is he up too and why my sister and will the courts ever open their eyes on to what this man is doing to our kid??

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Hi Mom. An online friend who understands the system advises you have the right to adjournment to get legal advice. The person to contact is the court clerk . you can phone the clerk support assistant to ask for an adjournment so you can ask the judge or clerk to adjourn the hearing. If the notice was recent and you had no time to seek legal advice or you have just had the post before the weekend before the hearing. then you can explain, short notice, and can e mail or telephone the clerk of the court. If there is difficulty on finding the e mail address

or telephone number, can you give the name of the court place. I would send an email and phone the court, if you cannot attend.

Phoning the court so they can make a note to give the usher to pass on.

It takes a long time to sort out a matter like this, and the children will not be taken from you. As you have been caring for the family on your own, you are their mum, and need a calm and loving atmosphere, which will not affect their mental health. I am sure you have the details to contact.

[Mom23boys in reply to Hidden]

I can go to the clerk in the am . we share joint legal custody at the moment . I have suffered without my kids for a month and a half due to his abuse and her manipulating lies she doesnt work she has been married twice

[Hidden in reply to Mom23boys]

The fact you have joint custody with the children living in your home, must make a difference. If you had no information you can still phone and ask for an adjournet.

Only with emergency cases where the children are at risk, can a hearing be followed up.

I can see you are ina difficult position. The less you say the better. Just go in advance as soon as the court opens, explain the situation you have had no time to tell the court you need an adjournment,and wihs to cancel. You can tell them you have joint custody and there has been no prewarning of a sudden court hearing. The less you say in front of your famiy the better. Getting there first, can make all the difference.

Somehow you have to keep your cool and any negative thoughts about those who are trying to pull you donw. If you rise to the bait, then it will affect you.

You have to put those kids first, and stick up for them by forestalling the situation.

Because someone is pointing the finger at you it makes you feel inadequate when you are capable and have been co parenting at may be at a different address.

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PS. If you have time to resolve this without a court hearing it would be better for the children. As you have the right to the adjournment, then when you have had a chance there is mediation. I hope you can stay calm. and get notification of the adjournment with receipt of e mail, and if possible cancelling in person. Knowing when the offices are open may help. No need to reply.

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Opening times are 9am and open during lunch. Keep positive.

[sweetiepye]

You must be raging inside , I know I would be. It is essential to remain calm and cool when having any contact with the court. Don't hurl accusations about your ex and the frootloop. The court will see them for what they are . Sorry you're going through this, what's your sister thinking ?

[Funkyfaerie]

A very similar thing happened to me, but cutting a long story short, my three kids stayed with me. I know it's a very distressing time, but try to hang on it'll be ok.

[YouareBeloved99]

Wow, that is so awful! Your ex was abusive and is trying to take the kids AND married your sister?! Talk about hurt upon hurt! I'm so very sorry! It's now Monday... have you gone to court already?

Goodness, I don't even know what to say as far as the courts. A lot of what they do doesn't seem to make sense. I guess the only thing I can say is to take it one day at a time. Try not to stress about next week, next month, next year, etc. I know that's a really hard thing to do, especially when it comes to the kids. But as much as you can, focus on what you need to do TODAY. And if you are a person of faith, pray. I've seen many impossible situations turn around through prayer.

Let us know how it goes today.

[Mom23boys]

Walking in the friend of the court seeing them made my blood boil knowing that those are the ones trying to keep me away from my kids so their relationship would be okay . They ordered my boys counciling. They told him stop bringing up my past and to tell my sister to stay out of it shes their Aunt not mother no matter if your married or not . I have to do random drug test and do what they say for 4 weeks then my boys can finally be free from his hate

[Mom23boys]

How do i fix our relationship kids and i its so awkward and forced feeling i know its me thinking to much how do i make that go away

[YouareBeloved99]

"How do i fix our relationship kids and i its so awkward and forced feeling i know its me thinking to much how do i make that go away."

I'm not sure I understand the question. Are you asking how to fix your relationship with the kids?