Does anyone else pity themselves

[Lunazay]

I always imagine myself and I see how sad I really am. This makes me pity myself. I really do feel bad for myself that I go through this much pain. No one should go through this. I really feel bad for myself that the thought of it makes me cry. Does anyone else feel bad for themselves? I just think why should I even live if I have to live like this. Uhhhhhhhh I really wanna just go somewhere far away on a vacation or something

[Shiner19]

Hi, the problem with this is we cannot run away from ourselves, we must learn to ride the storms in life and adapt because we do not have the power to change people, places or things however we can change ourselves and our attitudes, that's where true strength lies in a person. I feel sorry for myself sometimes but I know it's not helpful to stay there in that head space, I must think of 3 things I'm grateful for, its usually the roof over my head, my pets and the dinner I'm eating. I live alone but I'm happy this way, sometimes when I get depressed I blame others when really it's not there fault, I sometimes focus on past too much, it's now that matters, i see a therapist because if i carry hatred or I'll feeling towards people that have wronged me i get sick with depression or more anger, I accept I'm in control of my thoughts and feelings to a degree and try and grow some kind of backbone instead of using a wishbone to try and change things I have no control over. We are worth it so much, even pushing ourselves outside our comfort zones a bit each day, baby steps to get our self worth where it should be, caring less about what others think of me as i can be quite shy at times, we are enough, the media doesn't help, it's up to us to own our shit and charge forward or quietly love ourselves back to happiness. I hope this helps, I'm not perfect, I'm just me in this sometimes crazy world but there is loads of good stuff going on too and we can really do what we put our minds to. I wish you all the positive vibes in the world!

[Precious1970 in reply to Shiner19]

I really enjoyed reading your feedback, I’m new on here and I think this was my push for today, thank you for being on here and for being a caring person!

[Shiner19 in reply to Precious1970]

Aw thankyou! That's made me feel better cuz I'm needing a push this evening, it's cool when we bounce of each other and it shows us that different feelings come n go! 😁

[Swwahine in reply to Shiner19]

Great response and so relatable! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

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It's okay to pity yourself sometimes you just cant get stuck there.

[Precious1970]

I dwell on my past and pity myself quit frequently, I have crying fits every time I’m alone...but we have to keep pushing to enjoy the sunshine! Your not alone💕

[SheWrote]

Hi there. I am so sorry you see yourself as so sad. Why are you so sad? I bet there are many things in your life that could be considered good or happy or even hopeful. Think of things or people or places that make you happy on focus on that. I have found that makes me feel better whenever I have been in that sad place you are describing. And please don't let yourself stay there, that only helps fuel the sadness and allows it to grow. Be happy, choose to be happy no matter what. Don't give in or give up... you are too precious! HUGS!

[Swwahine]

Yep! Absolutely and it really tears at my confidence and then I pity myself some more. Vicious cycle! Getting mood stable and fighting the negative self talk is crucial but not easy for me. I go weeks into self pity and know my mood is better when I realize it’s been several days since I felt that way or had self pity talk in my head and I am so grateful!