Newly divorced

[Flawesome2019]

November 27 I will officially be divorced. I have been out of his house for a month now. I need advice on how to meet people. I am sort of an extrovert who talks a lot once I get to know you. I love music and music festivals but I don’t feel safe going out by myself at night. I love nature walks but again don’t feel safe by myself. Other than carrying mace or something, what are some strategies I can employ, also what are some other ways to meet people. I am a Christian so I don’t really go dancing or do the bar scene. I signed up for a divorce support group at a church near me, but I’m lonely and need to be around people.

[Mike7777]

Being lonely isnt always bad, learn to think of it differently. Im newly divorced as well and would much rather not rush into anything new. Im not saying you are doing that but give yourself some time. Also im not sure what being a christian has to do with going to bars or dancing?

[Flawesome2019 in reply to Mike7777]

Meaning I don’t drink but a couple times a year and I don’t dance cuz of my religion. I also have ADHD so I prefer to be on the go.

[Mike7777 in reply to Flawesome2019]

I have adhd too. I cant drink either but i just didnt know being a christian had anything to do with all that.

[Mike7777]

You like going to music festivals but dont like dancing? Lol hmm

[Flawesome2019 in reply to Mike7777]

Let me rephrase that by saying I don’t like the “club scene.”

[Mike7777 in reply to Flawesome2019]

Ok that make sense, im the same way. So i understand.

[NuViking7]

Take up fishing. It helps me tremendously. Nature, quiet and peaceful!!

[Flawesome2019 in reply to NuViking7]

I am actually afraid of fish

[seeking-soul]

Hi Flawesome. It's a while since you posted this but I'm new here and wondered how you're doing?

I'm a Christian, who was divorced, so can relate to an extent.

[countryboy1]

I get it, I am divorced as well and I remarried. I know the feeling of being lonely and needed people. I think that you are doing as well by joining a support group. It will take a GOOD WHILE for you to heal. I would really avoid any intimate relationships for at least a year. Allow yourself to heal. Hopefully you have a close female friend. Go out with her, enjoy your time w her. Please continue going to church and maybe be more active there, join the choir etc. A rebound relationship can do more damage to you long term. Please avoid that. Go slow and take your time.

[Lulububs]

Mayb go to a exercise class or yoga , i took my mum to one many moons ago now as she is single and just retired so she was lonely... i took her to meet other women.. 3 years on she now has all them women as friend. Goes to yoga twice a week. Looks fit and healthy. It a win win.

Then u may meet friends that like u enjoy walking and music and it becomes a more social friend.

Whatever religion we are we all need to move more... exercising . Dance class... what about a Rambling club or jogging club.. we have loads in kent...